Basically, we have been going out for 3 and a half years, but my boyfriend doesn't know many of my extended family. His family are invited to the evening do, but what can I do with him in church? I feel like my sister has enough to worry about, without asking her if a) he could sit at the front near us, or b) who the hell he can sit with!! Also, the bridesmaids and best man are travelling to the wedding reception in one of the bridal cars, so he will be going with my mum in her car. I feel so awful, and I don't want it to spoil our day. I'm hoping I won't be on the top table, and I might have to ask if I can just go on a table with him. We should be OK in the evening, because we can do what we like and it's more informal, plus we're sleeping over at the hotel.
It might sound a bit pathetic, but I don't want anything to spoil my sister's day, which is why I'm asking here instead of asking her! I'd really like some advice please!!
Thanks
2007-03-11 23:26:37 · 11 answers · asked by raspberryfluff 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I ran into the same situation. My boyfriend is like family with my parents but not much anyone else. And of course my parents had to sit in the front of the seating section. My grandparents recognized him and asked him to sit with them. I'm sure your boyfriend will sit anywhere theres an open seat as long as he can see you (after all, you're going to look beautiful) the ceremony is only like 15 minutes too. I'm sure it will be ok
2007-03-12 14:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by Baby J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At church he can sit with the rest of the people. Not a big deal. It's only for a half an hour and he doesn;t care where he is seated. men do NOT care about this things, so don;t make it a huge issue.
In the reception, his family will be there, so he can sit with his family.
You are expected to sit a the head table, and he should not site there with you, since is in poor ettiquette to do so, so don't push the issue. NO dates on the head table is the norm.. Reason being is if your guys ever break uo, your sister will have wedding pictures with an exboyfriend.... So that's the reasoning behind it.
Good luck
2007-03-12 10:00:06 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about your boyfriend, he's a big boy. He'll just learn to fit in wherever he happens to be. When it comes time to pick out where he should sit during the reception, find him some of your sister's friends for him to sit with so he'll have some people his own age instead of grandma and grandpa.
You just worry about your sister and make sure everything goes well for her. Everyone is going to be happy and friendly, therefore, your boyfriend will feel right at home even if he doesn't know anyone. This will be a good time for him to get to know some of your relatives anyway.
Wish you the best. Please don't fret over him.
2007-03-12 06:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by babbles 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
well this is just somethin that the wedding party's dates have to live with! last wedding my fiance was in I sat by myself at the ceremony and drove to the reception and behaved myself even tho I didn't know lots of people, its really not about accomidating dates and he may just have to be bored for a little while, I'm sure you sis's new husband will do it for your wedding! If the bride wants you to sit at the top table you sit there and he will just have to make a friend to sit wiht at the reception. I'm glad you are considerate of your sis, but this is just one of those times when you bite the bullet for each other and do things you don't really like doin, its part of a relationship and its one night so you will survive!
2007-03-12 10:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by ASH 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my sister was married two years ago and I was a briesmaid and my boyfriend was invited to the wedding allso. none of his family was there, but he sat with my family (the wedding was quite casual) since he has family there I really wouldn't worry about where he's sitting, he'll do fine on his own. At the reception you probably won''t get to sit near him either but following toasts, dinner, and first dances, you're free to be with him. DOn't bother your sister over this, I guarantee she's stressed enough over other things and you will likely get a snappy remark back if you ask.
2007-03-12 09:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by kerri c 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the bride's maids will be seated during the ceremony, then your boyfriend can sit in the same row with you. But, if the bride's maids will remain standing to the left of the bride, then your boyfriend should sit on the bride's side of the church at least 3 rows back.
I know you want to be with him as much as possible on that day but you have to remember that this will be your sister's big day and all attention should be on her. Do the right thing until you get to the reception, then be with your boyfriend more.
2007-03-12 06:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
After having gone out with you so long, he must know someone in your family that won't be in the bridal party. At church, and at the reception, he'll just have to find someone friendly to sit with. And, as bridesmaid, if you are at the head table, he won't be there. You can handle one day apart from him....
2007-03-12 08:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
your boyfriend is a big boy. im sure he'll be fine without you for a few hours. and if he needs to go to the potty I'm sure your sister will let you take him and hold is hand till hes finished......honestly! how old are you guys that you have to worry about your boyfriend at the wedding. if its such a problem then leave him at home.
2007-03-12 09:39:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My sisters wedding is in may too, and as for the boyfriend situation, i think it's perfectly harmless to discuss this with her. Just bring up how you're feeling and I am sure she'd be happy to accomodate your request
2007-03-12 07:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by YinxSphinxmen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to her about it, tell her your worries, I am sure she will listen and tell you what she wants. Also, I am sure your boyfriend will understand and if he has to sit by himself, he is a big boy he can handle it. It is only one night, and a special night at that, he should understand, if not he is being selfish.
2007-03-12 10:46:55 · answer #10 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋