I have become everything i hate - a jealous boyfriend. I've caught myself on on a number of occasions being frankly stupid over nothing and its starting to get to me. I know i have become a soppy git since i started seeing this girl, but now its just getting out of control and absorbing my entire life. I'm watching her like a hawk and its killing me. Its nice being in love etc, but this is just ridiculus.
2007-03-11 23:23:29 · 18 answers · asked by tickTickTICK 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dear me the old green eyed monster rearing its ugly head, if people are honest i think we have all been there at some point in our lives...........love does strange things to us and your feelings for this girl are frightening you as maybe you have never felt this way before, explain this to her and try and tell her when you feel insecure and what triggers it, the quickest way to ruin a relationship is to clip someones wings you will end up resenting each other and it wont work and you will carry the experience with you always. Trust comes with time and if this girl has given you no reason to doubt her then you need to sort it out now the best relationships are built on communication and if you tell her that you cant help feeling like this she will help you work through it and harmony will follow, you already half way there as you recognise how silly you are being but deal with it now or you will lose this girl good luck,
2007-03-11 23:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to sit back and accept that there are some things you can't control, and your girlfriends behaviour is one of them. In a nutshell, if she is going to meet someone she is going to cheat on you with, it doesn't matter how you have behaved, she would do it anyway, it's out of your hands, all your behaviour at the moment is probably doing, is making every other guy she meets look like a better guy than you. My husband is from Albania and muslim, his jealousy when we met was quite frankly terrifying. If I went out with my friends in town I would be followed by his friends and family, and as he's a doorman he knew all of them in my local area, and actually text them a picture of me so they could watch me. Safest girl in the world, but it pushed me away to the point where I ended it. He gave me a week and then came to me to talk about it, i gave another chance, and he had really changed. There is the odd time he forgets himself and tells me I'm not allowed out, but he soon remembers if I am not given freedom to do what I want then I will just take it.
2007-03-12 06:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a wonderfully felling.
To be jealous in a way is something very normal.
BUT!!!
You need to learn to control it, and slowly stopping having it.
Sometimes when someone is jealous that doesn't mean that it is only your mistake.
Maybe your girlfriend makes you fell like this.
Maybe in a way she is provoking you do became jealous.
Is she doing that?
If yes then you souled speak to her.
Tell her who you fell about it.
If not, then you souled think the things that make you feel this way, and try to find a solution.
When ever you feel jealous think that you do the same things, so ...... it's the same.
You know your self.
Only you really know the correct answer.
I hope that you'll found a solution soon.
I know who bad this felling is.
It can drive you crazy.
Good luck
2007-03-12 06:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by iona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to have a certain amount of jealousy, but if it has gone over the top then maybe you need to talk to her about the way you feel. By being open about things you allow good communication, which is vital in a healthy relationship. By talking about it she may be able to reassure you and help you to feel better about the way your feeling. Try focusing on the positive aspects of your relationship, what a good time you have together and how you enjoy each others company as by focusing on the positve it may help you to come away from the negative feelings. I hope everything goes ok for you both!
2007-03-12 06:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by sarah_saz26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it because you don't trust your girlfriend or don't want to loose her? Try and work out why you feel this way, has she done something to make you doubt her? If so talk to her about it and maybe she will be able to ease your worries. If you find that you are jealous because you fear you may loose her to someone else as you are not good enough etc, then get her to reassure you, that you are the one she loves and all the things she likes about you. Remember these things when you start to feel jealous and hopefully if might help.
2007-03-12 06:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, let her go....
Nah, I wasn't serious there. But you have got to trust her. Otherwise it'll stifle her eventually, and you'll lose her anyway.
Saying that, everyone needs abit of jealousy in a relationship. Cause if you were the type didn't give a f, she wouldn't feel like she was appreciated. so there is a fine line.
Concentrate on the fact she loves you enough to put up with you, but conciously make an effort to ease up; especially since its eating away at you.
2007-03-12 06:29:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ah, young love!! ain't it tricky?!
congrats on realising you're being unreasonably jealous.
it's just your insecurities coming thru, we all get insecure whenin love as we've revealed so much of ourselves and who we are to our partners. work hard on getting it under control, take deep breath every time you feel it coming on. if she isnt giving you any reasons to feel insanely jealous, then just relax. tell her that you love her and trust her, but you're feeling vunerable being in love and that you need a little extra reassurance just now.
but say it calmly and with humour so you dont scare her off!!
make sure you spend time with your mates too, dont get to stag ewhere its just you and her 100% of time. that way your mind will be distracted, plus you'll have other things to talk about. also your mates are just as important as your g/f. especially if it goes wrong, as you may need their support one day.
i'm sure this is just a blip and you'll get over these intense feelings! if you cant, have some cousellling or similar to learn how to keep feelings under control.
chill out, relax, have fun and good luck!!
2007-03-12 06:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by hedgewitch 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, love can send us stupid. You have recognised the behaviour now take action! Realise that your girl is with YOU! She loves you, no one else. So stop being insecure or she won't want to be with you. You are self-sabotaging your relationship. Ask yourself why? Don't you think you deserve her? Or to be happy? She deserves a guy that makes her happy so stop making her miserable with the jealousy or it will be over before you know it and you will only have yourself to blame.
Good luck to you.
2007-03-12 06:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Meg D 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Everyone does it. Just some peolpe hide it better thats all. you just have to learn how to control it. Trust me thats the one thiong that will kill a relationship. Just try and hide it better. everyone is wondering what the other half of them is doing but they just learn to control those thoughts. You will get better if you want the relationship to work. when you catch yourself doing it just stop for a second and relax a bit. you are not alone though and atleast you ahd the balls to admit it.
2007-03-12 06:30:59 · answer #9 · answered by Noodle 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your jealous because you don't trust her. Maybe you should talk to her about it? There is a reason your jealous if you were never a jealous kind of person before.
Talking about these things usually helps
Best of luck dude
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2007-03-12 06:30:22 · answer #10 · answered by xXMichelleXx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋