I've been dating my girlfriend for nearly two years. I'd known her for 8 months before we started dating and she's my best friend as well as my girlfriend. We've had distance between us before - we spent almost four months apart in 2005 but stayed together as a couple and it wasn't a problem and was well worth it.
Now, we've both had to go on study abroad programs and will be apart for around 5 months, although we're only an hour's flight/7 hour train ride away from each other.
The first week was fine, then after a week she called out of the blue & said she wanted a break until we got back home. I was devastated but there's not much I can do.
I asked her if she's been with anyone and she said there's a guy she lives with that she's been seeing. When I asked if she'd slept with him she didn't answer. I would never think she would sleep with another guy so quickly but she's been acting differently, drinking and taking drugs since she arrived so I don't know.
What should I do?
2007-03-11 23:11:50 · 18 answers · asked by Irish21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let her go...
she's not in love with you anymore. i think she's in love with other man, perhaps after that other man disappointed her, she will come back for you. but don't hope for that. just let it flow
2007-03-11 23:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by blue angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is gonna be difficult as you don't know how she reacts on your questions and you're unaware of the siatuation out there where did she go to.Did you two give any promises to each other before she left? Things might have change since then and the worst is that you can't see the society she actually got into(new opportunities, new ppl, etc). If I were you I would probably get on a jet to fly to that place check things and consider all aspects that might affect the relationship or that might cause end of the road of you both before making any final statement as it is not that far(you said an hour flight). Don't make any rush on it, take it slowly as you can't make quick decisions as she is far away althought it might seem to be neccessary to do so. Convince yourself that you've done as much as you could to keep the relationship going on to prevent further qualms and guilty feelings that you shoulda done more.Good luck
2007-03-11 23:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by Focus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd talk with her first about the drugs and excess drinking and let her know that she's throwing the relationship all down. You don't call break to sleep with someone and hope that you can go back to the mr reliable. I highly suggest letting her go it sounds like she has already made her choice anyway. She cheated already. Do you really want her back after she's slept around BEFORE calling break? I hate the whole term break. Its a bullsh*t term instead of saying a break a couple should ask for a little space to sort things out not call it break so they can go sleep around.
2007-03-11 23:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by massure4hire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to stay with her even though you know all this? Love makes people do crazy stuff but love makes people crazy too! If staying with her makes you compromise who you are, makes you do what you feel is not needed or makes you settle just to keep her then you're better off without her. If she really loved you she would be loyal and not cheat at the first chance that she got. Don't you think you deserve more? The relationship wont be the same if you stay....
2007-03-11 23:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be concerned about her wellbeing if she's started taking drugs & behaving differently so i think you need to speak with her parents or go & visit her! As for your relationship???? You'll have to let it go i'm afraid as she is obviously absorbed in other things at the moment. Try to stay in touch & maintain some kind of friendship so that you can be there for her when she crashes - & she will.
2007-03-11 23:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. You're in a new place now. Take every opportunity to enjoy the experience. If by chance fate thinks you two should be together, it'll happen. You never know, there might be someone better waiting for you.
2007-03-11 23:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend but I wouldn't count on a relationship. If she has started drinking and doing drugs and sleeping with other people and she has never done any of that stuff before, then she is probably doing all three irresponsibly.
2007-03-11 23:17:00 · answer #7 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let her go..you cant stop someone from loving another person.She wont love you like the way she does before.Just find a new one.Its not like shes the only girl in this world??
Well good luck on that! :D *cheer*
2007-03-11 23:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 23:47:46 · answer #9 · answered by esquinaldo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she didnt answer, then you have to assume she is sleeping around. let her go, have a good time while you can. maybe when your both back home, try and pick things up. sorry bro
2007-03-11 23:18:11 · answer #10 · answered by jasonm658 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋