I ran into my ex in a bar last week. We were only together for a few months but it was intense and I really liked him. He'd only been single for a couple of months when we met. He kind of ended things in January and I realised I had been his rebound, but at the same time I felt he was making himself pull away from me because he didn't want to get so involved with someone else so soon.
Anyway, I saw him in this bar and we chatted like old times. I could tell by the way he looked at me that he still likes me, and obviously I still like him! Later on in the night he came over to me again and asked me to get in touch with him.
Later that week, I sent him a friendly text to see how he was but he hasn't replied. He's a nice guy by the way, and I know his confidence really suffered after the break up of his last relationship. I just can't believe he's not replied!! I'm 26, he's 27 so we're not kids!! What's going on?
2007-03-11 22:57:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not all men are dogs. He could be considering replying you but doesnt because he doesnt wanna risk hurting you again. Give him some time to sort his head out. You said it yourself, his confidence took a knock, theres nothing you can do now that doesnt seem desperate so just wait it out. The ball is in his court now. Just continue as you did before and dont give it too much thought.
2007-03-11 23:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be any reason hun:
1- is there any chance at all he didnt get the text? Sometimes these things do get lost in transmission!
2-he was playing mindless games with you - just seeing if he could still "have you" and boosting his ego when you did text
3-maybe he was a bit tipsy or something and was in a lovey mood that night -but on sober reflection regretted asking you to text and chose to ignore it instead of replying and leading you on .
4-is there any chance he could have met someone after you that night - possibly hit it off and opted to try things with her?
Theres no way of knowing really - but I wouldnt text him again - Im sure he has your number should he want you.
xx
2007-03-12 09:28:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to forget him and move on.You said that his confidence suffered as a result of the break up of his previous relationship so i guess he has realised that he needs time on his own.I don't think hes over his ex,you said hes a nice guy so he hasn't replied to your text as he doesn't want to hurt you.To me it sounds as though he isn't ready for another relationship.Don't let yourself get hurt again by this confused guy,move on.
2007-03-12 06:18:12 · answer #3 · answered by becx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe, no offense or anything, he reconsidered... at the bar he probably got attracted by your personality and it felt liek old times.. he took a chance and asked to you contact him, but maybe, afterwards, he felt stupid for doing that... he mightve started thinkning things like "why am i going back?" "i left her once.. why do i need to go back?" stuff like that....
i would suggest waiting a bit .. maybe 3-5 days from when you last texted him and this time call him and leave a message if he doesnt pick up
best of luck :)
2007-03-12 06:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by curls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men don't reply as quick as women they think its cool to leave it a few days. i would not txt him again or phone unless he replys and if he does reply then pick up the phone and ring him as i agree txting is so inpersonal.
i hope it works out as i also fell for a guy who was just out of a relationship and i was his rebound, so i wish you all the best and let us know it he replys.
good luck
2007-03-12 06:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by cd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know!!
Why don't you phone him?
If he doesn't reply 2 you then don't send any messages, or phone him again.
Phone him, like this you will hear his voice and it will be essayer 4 u to understand by the looks of his voice.
Check him out.
You r not together any more so you don't have anything to lose.
Good luck and i hope all the best to u.
2007-03-12 06:06:28 · answer #6 · answered by iona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's leading you on? It sounds like a complicated situation, just wait a little bit and text him again, but the best thing, really, is to call him. Texting is so impersonal..
2007-03-12 06:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by kenniemcooper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he was testing to see if you r still attracted to him..(guys do that)
or maybe after that night at the bar, he changed his mind n decided that he's not ready to be with anyone yet..coz he's still in the emtional mess..dating again too soon isn't such a good idea..
or maybe he found some other girl b4 u texted.
or maybe he doesn't want to breakup again with u if he starts to date you again..
2007-03-12 06:13:52 · answer #8 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TO be completely honest to you I think he might have fantasy about tour but he had a relationship an now its over he might be thinking you might have broken them up do you know why they broke up i know that you might not think that that matters but it dose its apart of his life an if you care about him enough then it would matter. so did you figure out your answer if not then i cant help.
2007-03-12 06:11:51 · answer #9 · answered by LMB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes probably like the rest of us chaps, we like to get down and then move on.
2007-03-12 06:01:01 · answer #10 · answered by . 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋