I've been with my girlfriend for 6 months now. We've lived together for 5. I had that fresh feeling of love for ages. That kind of swelling "butterflies" excitement and anticipation all the time. Then on 18th of January it disappeared overnight, I love her so much, but i'm not feeling "in love". I'd like to know whether i'm mourning the loss of a temporary infactuation (over reacting), or whether this is something more serious. I'm not feeling the excitement really... but i know this is the person I want to be with... Hope that makes sense. Advice needed!
2007-03-11 22:37:52 · 7 answers · asked by Nick C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
look if you think you've fallen out of love with her then you can fall in love with her again. For a relationship to last people need to fall in love over and over again. The fact that you 2 live together is a large step to take in the relationship now don't chicken out when things start to get serious. At first it was the attraction that caused all that excitement in your tummy but now you've gotten to know the person your staying with. Remember what you first loved about her than try to embrace that.
By the way I don't believe that people can fall out of love, it just a matter of being board during that specific time.(hope i helped)
2007-03-11 22:51:25 · answer #1 · answered by Deedee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Nick,,,relax--thsi happens to millions of guys---at least you are honest about it. You probably moved in too soon--passion is a funny thing--tyhe battle is won and you want to move on--you say you want to stay--but I doubt it. Better have that talk with her and find out what it is all about---no way anyone can say how to get it back. Are you young??? You have a long life ahead of you--maybe the honest thing to do is move on--you just aren't ready---she is the one??? I doubt it--why wait 5 or 10 years to admit you should have moved on---she won't die because you made a choice--it is a free world--just BE HONEST. Be cool, relax and Good luck
2007-03-11 22:44:21 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not about having butterflies in your stomach.
Love is all about being there for some one, loving them, staying committed and sharing, trusting, caring and more.
Just be happy, you love some one and they back to you.
Learn to appreciate her / him and learn to live a mundane life with out having excitement all the time.
Thats life.
2007-03-11 22:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by CG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of there's a factor people that needs to be significant. this is why we see this area flooded with questions of "what's the which ability of life?" this is why God is that this type of arguable subject remember, this is substantial to us, to be attentive to that we propose something. We seek for popularity and as quickly as we don't gain that we are able to experience truly down. Love is something that conquers this and greater. We experience a feeling of connection, we experience substantial, significant. people commit their finished lives to achieving those kinds of emotions. yet here this is, all interior the only equipment. And coming right down to the fundamentals, all of us have sexual want, that's enriched as quickly as we do such act with somebody we like. sure there could be a painful area to it, yet from a philosophical stand element, merely you are able to enable somebody to harm you by ability of taking issues to coronary heart. do we want it? i do no longer think of so. yet do we could like it? sure. Why would not you? The positives outweigh the negatives.
2016-12-14 17:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal. Once normalicy sets in -- you learn to love other things about her too. Don't sweat it. It's just the relationship growing.
2007-03-11 22:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by Jazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow - that's hard... i think that maybe if you tried spending less time physically together, ie. living together, then when you see her, the butterflies might start to come back - absence makes the heart grow fonder
2007-03-11 22:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by cakramer99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey nick first relax yourself i think you just had an infatuation or an sexual attraction with so only you think like after 5months itself make yourself suitable with her don't make her know this try to love her sincerely without cheating at least from now
2007-03-11 23:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋