My bf split up with me 1 week ago.(2gether for 1 yr).The reason was "distance".We werent able 2 meet very often as we were staying in different cities.I was so sure that we could make it through,but he was so impatient&worried about our future together.He wasnt moving out,I wasnt moving out,my dad was so-so with this story,i was on the process of making it work.He just couldnt wait.We love each other so much still but this is killing us now.We cant be together,the glass is broken,my family is mad at him(he said stuff he didnt mean but hurt me lots!) I hurt him 2 with my attitude.i tried 2 be strong,not 2 show him my feelings but he hated it.Now after we had a "final" face-2-face talk we figured that we cant live without each other...I LOVE HIM AND HE LOVES ME!!We cant stop thinking each other. Id like 2 go back 2 him...even though that means id have 2 do something i didnt want 2 do from the 1st place (moving out)...also my family doesnt want him any more!!I cant go back...It hurts!!!:(
2007-03-11 21:58:17 · 12 answers · asked by Soulla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Drop the boy. It is the MAN's responsibility to take care of the woman and do things for her. If he is unwilling to relocate for you forget him. He doesn't love you all that much or is some sort of metro-sexual wimp.
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2007-03-11 22:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same promblem i know how u feel he just broke up with me yesterday and im hurting it was going to be yr in the 27 of march i thought we could work it out be *** it im gonna let it go no its not that i dont love it but if we are meant to be then we will get back together i mean i know we both love eachother like if i move on it would kill him but yea long distance realtionships are hard my point is ma just let it rock if u guys are meant to be together trust me u will good luck
2007-03-12 05:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by BROK3NLI3Z20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation right now: my boyfriend broke up with me because of the distance, but we still love each other. And I have to choose whether to move back to be with him. And my family is against him. It's really tough, but my advice is to think hard about it and follow your heart.
2007-03-12 05:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's shame that you are in this situation,torn between your bf and your family, I don't believe you should have to move out to be with him. the fact your family doesn't want him anymore, tells me that if you go with him your are going to lose your entire family. I don't think it's worth the lost. I gave up my family, for a young lady, and I am now in a situation where I don't want to be. and I have very little contact with my family. I am hundreds of miles from them. If I had to do it all over again I would have never left....
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2007-03-12 05:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you think is right for you. even if your family dont like the idea now when they see how happy you are they will be happy for you. even if it takes a while for them to relaise that you made the right choice. to be fair why dont u move there for him but make a pact that after a year or so he moves back to your city and gives things a go here with you. i have a frd who done it (not cities , countires) and they r very happy. goodluck .
2007-03-12 05:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by mandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you, he will wait. Don't force yourself into a corner. If he is this demanding about you moving out now, he may be even more demanding later. Do not break your ties with your family. Your family will always be there for you. Any man that would want to to break ties with your family is probably going to be big trouble later. (Who else will he want you to abandon?)
2007-03-12 05:09:18 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I noe how u mean..........my mum hates me boyfreind cause he doesnt have a job and he lieves 3 hour drive away......but he loves me and i love him. We havent broken up like u and ur boyfriend broke up but my mum is nagggin me everyday to break up with him cuase we have no future....and the only way i can see it also is to just move out....
i love my mum no doubt but i love my boyfriend. Like u love yours right? i know it is difficult...but i know my boyfriend loves me and i love him for sure..so im staying with him and im old enough i shouldnt have to listen to my mom anymore.............u have bin with him for a year and the only thing use ever fought bout wat the distance between u.........
Sometimes it is good that ppl break up becuase it makes both ppl realise wat they had and appresicate eachother more........and realise they actually do belong togehter...........right? im sorry i cant give u good advice cause i am kinda in the same situation as u but all i have to noe is that i love my boyfriend and my boyfriend loves me and he is the only person i want to spend the rest of my life with him and if anyway he couldnt move down with me then i would move up there with him.....my mom wouldnt like the decision but....we all grow up and have to start making decisions for our selfs and if ti were the wrong decision...at lest we have learnt from it right?
good luck sorry again!
2007-03-12 05:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by missing_something 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really loves you and you feel the same then maybe you both should find a new place in a different city so you both are starting a new life together and you both compromised
2007-03-12 05:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by james s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a lot of downside to leaving home and chasing after a guy.
try to remember that your bf was willing to walk away from the relationship. you have convinced him to try again, but that wasn't his plan. it was yours.
you are putting everything on the line for him.
2007-03-12 05:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he is gone and he hurts you again...your family is still going to be there....just think of that...
2007-03-12 05:03:51 · answer #10 · answered by oo_m_i_c_h_e_l_l_e_oo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋