He tells me that they had planned to get married in a year and he loved her so much that he fell into depression after they broke up. She was tall slim and blonde and cared for him a lot. He introduced her to his family. With me, he never talks about what our future holds and tells me he's not yet ready for me to meet his family. I'm so jealous of her. How can I stop?
2007-03-11 21:45:03 · 15 answers · asked by Elsa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh and he broke up with her about two years after she cheated on him. We've been going out for about 7 months.
2007-03-11 21:50:19 · update #1
Sorry everyone, just to clarify- all those things happened when they were going out, not right now. He's with me now.
2007-03-11 21:53:21 · update #2
He went through a horrific breakup. He is damaged goods. Decide how much longer you will give him. I would limit it to a year (five more months). If he hasn't moved on and gotten over her you need to move on. Be firm. It just may be you breaking up with him that will jar him out of his hurt over the blonde bimbo.
Anyways, give him a specific time, then move on. Don't waste your time. Oh, and don't tell him of your deadline until it passes.
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2007-03-11 22:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well after what happened I can't blame him. He was ready to get married and finally his former relation cheated on him.
I guess he just want to be sure that you are the good one before introducing you to his parents. He doesn't want to repeat the same mistakes twice. It has nothing to do with you. He is not ready yet.
Be a bit more patient.
Look I have a girlfriend. We 've going out for a year and half and I still haven't seen her dad yet. I met her mom. Time will come when I mit him just like time will come when you met them.
2007-03-11 22:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by kl55000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. I'm just like you. I always become jealous even in some small things. But this situation you are on is so . . . really jealousy. If I am you, I think I'll just pray to God. I know He'll help me overcome this. Being jealous is bad, I know, but with God, everything is possible. And keep thinking positive. He and his ex had been dating for two years. So it meant that they're really close. Just wait and see, in no time, he'll like you, too, dear. You both are still seven months. Spend more time with him, and care for him a lot. Pray for him always and tell him that you really love him than yourself. I know that'd help. If it won't, it's really hard to accept that he's not your true love and it's time to move on.
2007-03-11 21:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by annaliesse_coolgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That means they patched up? You have to confront him of his geasture over the ring and family meeting with plan to marry.
Why he ever loved you as second priority. Let him tell the truth although you perceive in his act how he feels about you and the other woman. At least it will relieve your tension.
2007-03-11 21:51:40 · answer #4 · answered by wilma m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how hard it is.. my boyfriend has a best friend who he loved but knew he couldnt be with her because he didnt want to ruin the friendship. he talks about her alot.. not in the lovey dovey i wish i was with her way.. but just things he remembers about "back in the days" and stuff like that you know.. and you cant blame them because they are human after all.. im sure if even you went through a heart break as tough as that.. you'd be a little bit like him.. it'd be hard to let go so quickly.
NEVERTHELESS, this does NOT mean he doesnt love you. i beleive that he tells you these things because he feels as if he can trust you. he feels that you are somebody he can tell his feelings too whatever they may be and im sure you'll find a way to somehow realise that .. it took me awhile.. i mean if you were a girl who was clingy and easily over protective and gave him every need to want to hide from you, then he wouldn't tell you at all.. but he's telling you this because he belive that u will understand and wait for him until he's ready to get over the past and move on with you.
you cant stop yourself from bein jealous. i hate getting jealous because it seems to me like its so pointles... but even when i tell myself not to.. i cant help it. so just give it time. know that he is with you now (CONGRATS for being together for so long! i've also been with my bf for 7 months now =]!!) and that time will heal.. just be patient.. i know its hard, but life's a b*tch sometimes..
doesnt matter how she looked or how she was to him.. SHE cheated on him and no matter what, he doesnt deserve her.. and obviously you do. you can be the one to show ur boyfriend how to love again and you're willing to let him take its toll for it to happen... he's just building up the trust he feels for you.. great things take time to happen, you just have to tell yourself you want things to work and they WILL.. no matter how long it'll take.
oh gosh... rambling again =P
good luck !!! =)
2007-03-11 22:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said "EX", it means past, and now it's a new time. If there is someone who may feel jealous, is she. Because she has not any share with him now. Leave the past alone. Plan current time for a great future without bad feelings. Good luck!
2007-03-11 21:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by mhrhashemi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Remember that he broke up with her and then chose to be with you.
If he is dating you right now and not her, it means that you're the one he wants to be with. If it bothers you that he's not ready for some things with you that he did with her, think of it this way -- he got hurt. He probably still hurts, and he would be acting the same way with anyone else!
2007-03-11 21:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As your bf has already decided to get married to his ex gf, it is better for you to forget him like a bad dream (instead of getting jealous). Find the right man for your life and BE HAPPY.
2007-03-11 21:49:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be really not you if she is really loving, having so choosing the life leaving him , being thrown together but each having a different ambition best is pained
2007-03-11 22:00:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been together?
The onlly way to get over jealousy is to make yourself get over it. It is in his past and he can't go back and change his past to suit you in the today.
2007-03-11 21:50:16 · answer #10 · answered by purplepixeestix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋