My husband is24 and I am22.our children are 4,3,and 19 months I love being a mom and I divote 100% of my time to our children my husband and I both want to have 5.we are in a good place in our relationship and our finances.Our children are the center of our world and they are well cared for and loved.We take care of them on our own and never ask anyone for help so why is it that my parents and my brothers get angry with me for even bringing having another one up?Why shouldant we have more?
2007-03-11 21:31:49 · 14 answers · asked by goodgirl5567 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am healthy,I dont smoke,dont drink,Im not over weight, and I dont do drugs.
2007-03-11 21:37:35 · update #1
Your parents and your brothers have no say in the matter. Neither does anyone else. You and your husband are grown adults capable of making this decision on your own (you have already made this decision 3 times over in the past it seems). If YOU both want another child then go for it. It sounds like you have everything going for you and you shouldn't let anyone else - radio talk show host or not - get in your way. My husband and I married when I had just turned 19 and him 20. We are not the statistic. We have been married for 12 wonderful years and we still love eachother very, very much. We have two children, ages 3 and 7 months and we possibly will have another child in the future. Just because 'statistics' are against you is no reason to not go for what you want out of life. I think you sound like a level-headed devoted young mother that is ready to do what it takes to be the mother of 4 or even 5 children. You are well on your way and if you and your husband want another child I say MORE POWER TO YOU!
2007-03-11 21:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Having your children early is nice in a way because you'll be done fast and when you are both in your thirties, you will have more time for yourself. Also you have more energy now to cope with child care. I'm 34 and pregnant with my second child and I feel I'm hardly up to the task. So it is your decision. I know a family that had 6 children in 7 years and were just fine. It really depends on you.
2007-03-11 21:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by petyado 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you are financially set, and more importantly, your marriage is at a good place, and you communicate well, then have more kids. HAVE TONS! Or think of adopting. A loving mother deserves to have children, just make sure you don't go through a cheating, midlife crisis where you want to dress like your teenager when you hit 40 just because you didn't get to party while you were in ur early twenties.
2007-03-11 22:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because the older the ones that you have now get, the more demanding they will become! Hold off right now and try to wait a while yours are still very young and not as involved in daily activities people with older kids have. It takes a lot of patience and time to devote to them when they are older and the older they get the more expensive they get too! Pretty soon you will have (if not already) one in school...you are going to have to drag 3 kids (if you have another) out every morning and afternoon to get the little one to/from school and then trying to help with homework with 2 babies! Whew!!!! I don't even want to think about it!
2007-03-11 21:40:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kimnkicks mommy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound like us. Mine are 4, 2 and 10 months. I think its just they are close in age, maybe wait longer to have the next. It always what you and your husband want in the end. Beside you know if you have another one they will love just as much as they do they rest!
2007-03-11 21:36:05 · answer #5 · answered by athena t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will NEVER regret having your next child. But, you may deeply regret someday that you did not have the child. If you are as good of parents as you say you are, and you can fully afford to bring another child into your family, then you already have learned not to consider anyone else's or to confuse anyone else's vision of Family with your own. Follow your heart. Good fortune and happiness to you and yours. RN
2007-03-11 21:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe they get upset because although you are a family unit. You are still very young and your children are very young. They probably just want you to slow down a bit. You still have plenty of time to expand your family
2007-03-11 21:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by Oops! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there is a large percentages of divorce between couples under 25. having 3 children seems a bit too much as it is. in a few years one of you two will more than likely feel as if you missed out on life. or atleast that is how its portrayed by others. what you do is your business, just dont let your kids end up in a broken home, it is not a good experience for them or you.
2007-03-11 21:35:16 · answer #8 · answered by tom t 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
OMG - if you want another one then go for it Me and my parter also want about 5 so I would say go for it! Dont let other people tell you what you should and shouldnt do decide for your self if it feels right then go on have another baby! Good luck and have fun!
2007-03-12 01:05:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its nothing against your parenting skills. Maybe they just think that its an awful lot of responsibility,
2007-03-11 21:35:38 · answer #10 · answered by shalini s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋