Ok...big weight question here for a date...?

Question

Ok...i have made a date with this really cute guy that i've been talking to through a friend...we have exchaged pictures but he obv has never seen my shape...i'm 5'3 about and weigh 148 pounds...ekk i gained weight being homeschooled for the last 2 years of highschool which now makes me 19...anyways this guy seems to like to be active and in shape...i have recently been back to the gym and i guess i am questioning if i should meet him for a date...he has asked me a few times and i keep putting it off...we click and talk for about 2-3 hours on the phone but i'm scared if he meets me he'll be turned off...btw most of my weight is in my tummy and i also have 36 dd's which i've always had so that's obv going to take part in my weight...anyways plz gimme your feed back cuz i'm very unsure if i should meet him thxx :)

Answer 1

You don't realize all the ammo you're packing. Believe me, 36DD's will draw a lot of attention and cover for a lot of "sins."

Date him anyways. If he is so shallow as to avoid you over a dozen or so pounds, you'll never please him anyway.

With those man magnets, you need to get out more. Don't limit yourself to on line stuff. Let men see you in person. Again, believe me, those 36DD's will draw man to you.
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Answer 2

Hey, there is nothing that some daily exercize and diet control can't fix--you just need to keep at it. And for this guy....have some pride in your inner self---you are an individual with talents and smarts--he should see the whole you. Maybe he would be interested in exercising together, just try. It should be easy to drop 10 pounds right away--just eat healthy and walk--it is proven that 10 pounds is easy--don't keep looking in the mirror--that is counter productive--just eat healthy and go about your day as usual.If he isn't interested...so what? there are plenty of other men who are out there and would appreciate the REAL you. Smile, dress appropriately, be well groomed and be interesting. That is a winning ticket---just don't give up too easily---you can and will lose weight.Never make excuses and don't be hard on yourself--a little treat won't hurt once in a while. The diets foods are good but just changing what and how you eat won't cost a dime and it works. Smile stand tall and good luck

Answer 3

Well, OK, let's play this through. What's the worst thing that could happen if you meet him? If I were in your situation, I'd think the worst thing would be that he was openly disgusted by me, or maybe that I saw him, and I saw that he saw me, and I saw him pretend not to see me, then pretend he wasn't who he is, then beat it out of there. Yeah, that would be bad. BUT, it's not like I'd be thrown in jail for being overweight, right? He wouldn't, you know, crush my skull in because he was disappointed, right? If you want to get a better handle on how he'll react when he sees you, just send him a full-body photo of yourself immediately. ("But maybe, if he got to talk to me, it wouldn't matter what I look like," you're saying. And hey, for all I know, you look stunning. Insecure, but stunning. But the point is this: A. He's a guy--chances are good that looks will rule--might as well find out if he likes your looks ahead of time; and B. You can't put this off forever. Meet him or don't, but I'd say what have you got to lose, really.

Answer 4

If you keep putting it off he will be distraught and not like you anymore. Try to set a date, maybe with a week in advance, that should give you time to tone up your belly with situps and eat less.
When you go out with him, wear something that doesnt draw attention to your weight. Then hit the gym. He'll be put off for a bit, (DDs are hard to come by though) and he'll think to himself ok, maybe two or three more just to see. And if in those 3-4 weeks you exercise consistently you should lose about 10 pounds and that flabby tummy. The key here is to buy time.

Answer 5

You should ALWAYS be honest at the beginning of a "relationship" . Send him a photograph of yourself, as you are. Tummy and all. Better to know now if he's interested or not. The results will be the same, so why keep fooling yourself if this guy wants some slim little girl.

There are people who like the shape YOU have.

Answer 6

Since you've started working back at the Gym, why not invite him for a pre-date at the gym. If he's a boob-guy, he'll check you out. If not, your gym-short will help.
DO mention why you're working out, home school kept you from working out.
DON'T mention you are self-conscious about your weight.
DO talk about life as you work out.
DO ask what kind of music he listens to as he works out.
DO say that you assumed he works out because you can see he's got good muscle tone.
DO Mention that you can't wait till you regain your own tone.

You get the picture. When you get done working out, offer him a bottle of water you've brought for him. Tell him the next water bottle is his turn.
He may just want to come with you everytime you work out.
And that will keep you honest at the Gym.

Good Luck and keep it honest

Answer 7

If the two of you click so well, I doubt he'll care so much about your weight. If he is so shallow that he can't see past it then he doesn't deserve to be with someone like you. You should probably find something flattering for your shape and be confident. Don't feel so insecure about your weight, there's just more of you to love. Good luck.

Answer 8

just meet w/ the guy already! wear cute flattering clothes, do your make up, and charm him w/ your personality! if he doesnt like you for the beauty within, he is a looser. also, being a little overweight doesnt mean you arent beautiful. there are lots of bigger girls who are totally gorgeous. plus, it doesnt really sound like you are that big, anyways. just take the chance, what exactly are you waiting for? to get thin first? and then what if you never loose the weight you want to? does that mean you never meet with the guy? just jump right in, i am sure you are worrying over nothing :)

Answer 9

I say go for it girl!! He shouldnt care about your weight. Its hard to find a chick that you get along with well, and talking on the phone for that long means a lot. Dont be paranoid, he knows you well mentally, just not physically. It shouldnt make a difference.
Good luck!

Answer 10

Before you meet him tell him the truth. Your not obese but your not little either. Put it out there now and get it over with. It's a good way to find out how shallow he is.