i know the Holy quran says:
In (Quran 2:15) "... Tell them that whatever wealth you spend, it is primarily for parents and relatives."
"And we have exhorted man to do good to parents" (Quran 46:15) ---But look at my situation
1) i have a small job and a young family. i have 2 daughers
(2) my dad is a pollygamist and a drug adict so he doesnt bother about paying the school fees and prober upkeep of my brothers and sisters.That responsibilty fell on my shoulders.they are all looking up to me. these children will be in school for the next ten years.
(3)with my current status i can provide for all the basic needs of my family and pay for the school fees of my brothers and sisters but in the end i will have zero savings.
(4) if i refuse to pay their school fees ican save
Should i spend on my relatives to the extent of making me bankrupt
(5) in addition to all the above my dad doesnt seem to appreciate all my efforts. he is not very nice with words.
What should i do?
2007-03-11 21:21:00 · 7 answers · asked by Omar 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Just do the best you can, inshallah your patience will be rewarded.
"Be sure We shall test you with something of fear and hunger, some loss in goods, lives, and the fruits of your toil. But give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere. Those who say, when afflicted with calamity, 'To Allah we belong, and to Him is our return.' They are those on whom descend blessings from their Lord, and mercy. They are the ones who receive guidance." (2:155-157)
"And be steadfast in patience, for verily Allah will not suffer the reward of the righteous to perish." (11:115)
2007-03-11 21:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by By Any Means Necessary 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you can afford to pay for them then do it, even though your dad will not appreciate it your brothers and sisters will do in the future, you would of given them the chance to learn and weather they want it or not that's up to them,, and in the end god will reward you for that,, because god said that a man must teach his children, your dad should provide for them but since he dose not then that's up to god to decide his punishment.. even if he is not nice to you ,, do it for the children so they can have a better future,, and then when the grow up ask them to take a part time job or something..
they will have a better opportunity in life because of you .. and you get your reward in different ways other than money.. they Will love you for ever and appreciate what you have don for them. and god will reward you too..
don't let your dad get in the way....
god bless you..
2007-03-11 22:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by Kyo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God rewards brother, As my Dad passed away, I worked everything to teach my sisters and support my family and educate myself, I worked in many many Jobs, i was poor, I was frustrated, but God rewards, I'm now a maritime lawyer who is paid by hour.
2007-03-13 01:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by Lawrence of Arabia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try To get some help From yr sister or Bro..Help with moniey and every thing's solved.
2007-03-11 21:26:46 · answer #4 · answered by babyyocca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allah is great so trust HIM and do your best. You will be rewarded as its mentioned in quran. Our brother has already quoted from Quran.
2007-03-11 21:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by super G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford to pay their fees you should, if you don't have any savings at this time, its ok, pray to God, and you might get a raise or something.
2007-03-11 21:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
we do good works not for man
but for god alone
we do it of service to love [the one god of life /love truth
paray to god for the strength to bare his good servant ,
to serve that of god good works
do it for god
2007-03-11 21:47:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋