I need your help
I break up with my boy friend after two years relation ship, we are from different nationality we both same religions we live in same country I was really honest girl I loved him , we decided to marry but his family need him to marry from his country, he did not accept that he told me to wait he will talk again to his family, suddenly I found him he start relation with the girl with me same nationality I was really mad , I asked him to be honest with me he told he doesn’t have any relation I did not trust him, he told me break the relationship we ignore each other almost one month , now he is tell me he don’t have any relation with the girl at the same time he want to break the relation with me, but he he want to contact me by phone he asked me forgive him but I am not agree he really break my heart , he start call me I don’t know what exactly need from me he told me he loved me but because of his family we have to be separated I am not trust him, in my opinion if he really love me he doesn’t lose me, now he want to keep a relation between us normal as a friend me I don’t feel ok why he want to break the relation he just want be friend, please I need your help did he love me what I have to do I don’t have to answer his call or should I tell him not to call or should I talk to him ?
2007-03-11 19:53:27 · 10 answers · asked by kodako 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds to me as though he is haveing problems with his family. Perhaps he was forced into the relationship with the other girl. Is this someting his family would do?
Many nationalities have very strong beliefs on this and parents will refuse to let their children date anyone who is of a different nationality. How old are the two of you? If he is young then I can understand the influence his family would have over him. If he is older, then it lookes as if he has chosen his family over you.
It isn't a question of if he loves you (as it sounds like he does), but if he has a choice about it and if you are more important to him then his family.
I think you should talk to him about it, if you can do this when his family is not standing around.
2007-03-11 20:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by BoranJarami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the calls, Make it a clean break. Even though it is hard to do so, he is not being completely truthful with you. He is going with his familys' wishes for whatever reasons. You need to tell him firmly that the whole thing is too complicated, that it's over, once and for all, and go on toward the future and a happier life with someone who would choose you, and only you, no matter what the cost.
2007-03-11 20:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he's using you - maybe he's confused, but if he really loved you, he would be honest and open with you, not telling you he loves you and wants to marry then tell you he's with someone else, and then try to come back to you. No wonder you're confused!
Forget about him. Don't answer his calls and find someone new to have a relationship with!
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2007-03-11 19:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend is feeling guilty about what he did to you.
If you really love him, you must accept that he break up with you because his family. Forgive him, I know that is not easy, but remember his kindness when you and him still in relationship....
2007-03-11 20:00:01 · answer #4 · answered by roy_marzoed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just sounds like a variation on the Its not you its me excuse..Maybe by now I should say I'm sorry to you?! Hope things for you get better but to answer your question?! You've just been brushed off.
2007-03-11 20:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by Dark Knight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not trust him. Move on with your life, don't answer his calls or respond to his letters. Sounds like he's just using you for side pleasures. You're better off without him.
2007-03-11 19:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by midnyt12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is over--what has happened is done--no need to talk---you need to get happy and find a new man. Stop talking and having contact with him--it is over--too late----do you see my point here??? No need to be friends---you need to move on
2007-03-11 19:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was using you.
2007-03-11 20:00:50 · answer #8 · answered by frankiethunders 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like your are not american i could be wrong tho but i,d cut him off it sounds like hes trying to have his cake and eat it too
2007-03-11 19:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by crengle60 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your question is too Fu cking long!!!
2007-03-11 19:56:14 · answer #10 · answered by pablo t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋