He comes and tells me that he needs to poo and askes for a nappy. If he doesn't have a nappy on he will go and get one and ask me to put it on. (He only has a nappy/drynight on at night time). I have tried bribes etc but nothing seems to work. Have tried blowing up baloons, putting toilet paper in the bowl first and bribes. Any Idea's please.
2007-03-11 19:30:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Remember that this is his issue and only he can control it. If you make a big deal about it you may get yourself into a power struggle. Stop the bribes. He will only come to expect them even after he’s trained and will only get the message that “I get something when I do something mom wants me to do.” If he cannot get onto the adult toilet without help, get him a step stool. Children prefer to use things that are real. Count out the remainder of his nappies and say "After “7” more nappies you get to use the toilet. Each time he uses a new one remind him of how many are left (using an excited tone). When the nappies run out, make sure he is in clothing that he can get on and off without any help including "Big boy" underwear that he picks out. When you feel he is about to have a bowel movement, say to him “It seems like you need to use the bathroom.” Say nothing more than that. If he soils himself, hold him responsible for the cleanup. Say to him “It looks like you need to change.” Give it no more attention. Let him take of as much as he can. He can shake the poop into the toilet, rinse them out, put them in a bag and into the laundry, clean his body (take a bath if necessary), and put on clean clothing. He will soon learn that it is much easier to use the toilet. Hope this helps!
2007-03-12 06:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, some children take as long as 4 years old to go potty. Sometimes children may be feeling stressed and this is a way they are showing you that something in my environment isn't quite right. Now, if this is not the case, stay patient. Give him lots of appraisal (possibly a sticker) every time he goes potty. Have him pick out a special pair of big boy underwear from the store and tell him until he goes potty in the toilet, he can not wear those special, cool big boy underwear. Although it is very hard, you can not stress over it. He will feed off of that stress, will regress and go potty on himself. If you stay consistent with him and remind him to go, and lots of appraisal, he will do it in time. Good luck!
2007-03-12 17:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kind of agree with the other answer. See if he will use a little potty. the big one might just be really scary to sit down on. I know i had problems when i was little about that, it hurt for me to go, so i wouldnt. you never really know why a kid does what he does, but see if you can sit down with him and ask him why he would rather use a nappy. he will feel like you understand him and may be more willing to compromise. but you are the parent and he should know that he cant always get what he wants. You could always just say that they dont have anymore nappys at the store and he will just have to go in the potty instead!
2007-03-12 02:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by bluejeanwifey 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't try bribes & gimicks just tell him that he is too old to do poo's in a nappy and needs to do it in the toilet. I am shocked that your son is 3 1/2 and you are asking what to do now! What have you been doing for the last 18 months?
2007-03-12 02:40:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
We had the same problem with our son at that age. I got a book called "Everyone Poops" and within a week my son was going on the toilet. You can get it for less than $6 on www.overstock.com.
2007-03-12 02:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by Lyzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe people are telling you to ignore him or not to "pander to his behavior." That will only back-fire, he'll end up holding his poo, and get constipated. My daughter did the same thing, and my friend's 3 year old is doing the same thing right now. Just keep giving him his nappy to poo and keep encouraging him to use the potty. He'll eventually do it. And bribery is okay if helps hurry things along!
2007-03-12 02:46:38 · answer #6 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Refuse to give him a nappy. Sit him on the toilet..and tell him he can't get off until he poops.
2007-03-12 02:38:44 · answer #7 · answered by oneblondepilgrim 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is wilful behaviour and you should know better than to pander to it. If your son can call the shots in your house when he's only 3 then God help you when he is 13.
2007-03-12 02:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by TC 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Continue with the bribes. I potty-trained my nephews purely with bribery. We bought tiny boxes of M&M's, and everytime they went to the bathroom, they got a tiny box of 'em and we went absolutely crazy over their big accomplishment ... oh, and if it was the big person potty, they got to ... (gasp!) ... Flush! ... every single bloody time!!! ;-) That's all I can think of doing. Best of luck, hon!
2007-03-12 02:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by Kristi 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
DEAR
PLEASE BUY HIM A MUSICAL POTTY CHAIR PUT IT IN THE BATHROOM AND WHEN YOU GO HE GOES OK
TAKE CARE
2007-03-12 02:37:00 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋