I am 17 and i belive they need to make a decision because it is killing me because i live with my father and my mother moved out to take care of of her stroke riden mother. from there thier marriage went down hill. for a while there was talk of a divorece and my mother said it would come by jan 1st 2007 and that my father would be moved. ot never happened. my question is what is a way that i can tell my parents that this waiting is killing me and that i believe they need to make a decision. it is a back and forth situation. i have tried to talk to them both and get 2 diffrent answers. i am at the end of my rope. what can i do, can u help me?
2007-03-11 19:23:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
YOU can't do anything. it's up to them. let them know how you feel. that's all you can do for right now.
2007-03-11 19:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me as if your mum is also the one stuck in the middle
she has loyalty to her mother and needs to care for her and if the only option was that she had to move to her mother's then she still needs the support from you and your dad
your dad may be feeling that your mum doesn't love him any more because he may think that your mum chose your grandmother instead of him.
In the real world things are never simple and I think that you all need to sit down and talk to each other. You may find that your mum and dad still care for each other but both are too stubborn to make the first move
2007-03-11 23:49:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely nothing. This is between your parents, and although it is frustrating for you, it's a decision they have to make, whether they want to work it out or do nothing. If you want, tell them that their "divorce" talk is affecting you emotionally and psychologically, and they either need to stop threatening each other and the family with it, or let you know what's on their mind. Just say your grades and stability rely on it, which they are.
2007-03-11 19:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by diegomcnamara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No doubt you are going through a tough time. But you should think of yourself instead of letting them eat you up. You can use your energy in developing your skills and intelligences. Allow them room to learn and grow, since they seem to lack the maturity. In the meantime, work on having a good life regardless of what they do or don't do. You owe it to yourself. Be patient and understanding.
2007-03-11 19:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by Robbie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...are you sure its just not your dad being selfish?Maybe you mom really does still love him but because he won't help your mom she is really discontent of his issue with the whole thing?! The best way to discuss a problem is to get it out in the open if your unhappy what worse can happen by telling them now?!
2007-03-11 20:11:47 · answer #5 · answered by Dark Knight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people stay together for stupid reasons, and lots of people talk about divorce for years before they actually get one (if they ever do).
Why do you want them to get divorced? It sounds like they’re not living together anyway, so what really would a divorce change about the situation?
2007-03-11 19:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let them get on with it love and you get on with your life. experience tells me that just because you get older, life and love dont get any easier and its hard to walk away from amarriage at the best of times let alone when you have children. They may sort it out eventually but then they may just pootle along like it for the rest of their lives, this just may be the nature of the relationship.... Get out with your mates and live a bit of your own life and try not to worry to much because it wont actually make any difference
2007-03-11 20:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by oldybutgoody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is what I think.. your dad should be supporting your mom, she is taking care of her mom, tell your dad if he cares & loves your mom he needs to show it by helping.. emotionally, thats what marraige is. I hope your parents can work it out & that YOU learn from this.
2007-03-11 19:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by smsinga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them sort out what they have to they may not even get a divorce.lol
2007-03-11 19:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU can't do anything. it's up to them
2007-03-11 21:15:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋