Is this relationship worth it or not?

Question

My bestfriend been going out with some illegal smoker for 6months, even though she does it too. She been skipping school and already failed 3 classes. She been having sex with him non-stop without protection and not caring. Her parents stopped caring, and all our friends and even me tried to help her, but she rejected it and we stopped caring.

We're all in highschool, she had ideas of running away with him and such. Im kinda scared that the guy is just going out with her for looks (she looks like a 25 y/o, but not the face hah) and everytime a guy hit on her, he ended up hurting her. I dont want her to go through that and i want her to stop skipping and doing stupid things with him.

heh i KNOW her parents dont care - they LET her smoke, while they do it too

Answer 1

if she is not going to listen to her friends then she is not going to listen to anyone...so maybe the best thing for you to do is stop being friends with her or show her some tough love...cause the friends are closer than family when you are in high school...so maybe you need to make her open her eyes to what she is doing...she will eventually stop...son't give up on her though...make sure you stay friends if you want to show her some tough love(that is what my folks always use to call it when they use to make me see things that i wasn't wanting to see)

Answer 2

First off, is she smoking weed? and if she is don't worry too much she just became a slacker but she will meet new people through whatever drug she into and will find new highs to try which is going to happen. What you have to get through her head is that she already spent 10 or more years in school why quit when your already more than 75% done. It be the biggest waste of time in her life. If she cant reason with that tell her to get a job and get on with her life and as soon as she see no one wants people without a high school diploma she will rethink her situation a bit more. And if he is abusing her when other guys are hitting on her the relationship has to stop.

As a drug user it all depends on what kind of druggies she hangs around with, if she is hanging around druggies that want something in life and have goals she will desire that to and stay in school but from the looks she has a really negative attitude towards school from the drugs or boyfriend/friends.

Answer 3

Sounds like she's really screwing up. All you can do is be honest with her and let her know you care enough to tell her. In the end, you can't really control what she does which is sad. I really doubt her parents don't care, talk to them too, maybe they don't realize how bad the situation is. I'm sure they might be interested to know about her plans to "run away". You might lose her as a friend for now, but you might save her life .

Good luck :)

Answer 4

Only you can decide how much of this you can take. I know that is't hard when your friends do stupid things that anyone can see is not doing them any good. Be as supportive as you can, but sometimes you just can't deal with it anymore. Hopefully she will snap out of it and decide to act responsible. Is there anyone close to her that you could tell about this? I see that you said her parents don't seem to care, but maybe they aren't aware of all that has been going on. Good luck. You seem like a good friend.
Sex without protection!? Yikes.

Answer 5

It is not worth it really. What you have to do is talk to your bestfriend heart to heart. Ask her what the real problem is and why she's doing this. Explain to her that she is not only ruining her life, but her future as well. Tell her that since you care for her, she also hurts all of you as much as she wanted to hurt herself.

You are all too young to be in those kind of situation and it's unsafe, unhealthy. If she cares for you, she would listen. She needs enlightenment.

Answer 6

Be straight up w/ her and tell her this:
That you are tired of worrying about her, and you don't want to be around to watch her ruin her life. Tell her you'll be there for her when she gets pregnant, arrested, or her heart broken, but you're not going to be close to her and be stressed out and worried.
It is not worth it to you to be in this relationship, but you can be her friend when she hits bottom but not while she's on the way down, you have to let her go.
It's really sad, sorry...
The hardest lesson in life is that we can't make people do what we think they should do!

Answer 7

No call the cops one day just to save her when they are haveing sex or after he has smoked then call them and if he hurts her after she gets hit on write it down video tape it ect but get her out of there now unless you want a pregnant, smoker, hooker friend she really needs to live life the right way

Answer 8

Sounds like she's in love. It's really hard to get someone to see everyone else's perspective, when you blinded by such a powerful force. You have to convince her, if this guy really cared for her, he would want her to go to school, and get in college. Ask her, if this guy would really make a good father.

Answer 9

I say tell her the truth. Tell her that being with this guy is just going to make her life miserable and end up hurting her. If she denies this and says that your just jealous, ignore that and say that your only trying to help. If she still fights back and gets angry. Tell her that your friendship can't go on as long as she's seeing this guy. Then maybe she will see that yor friendship is more important then some guy.

Answer 10

You are a special person to be concerned for your friend. Since you have tried helping her, there is little more you can do. Just be her friend and let her know you care about her well being.