He has selected this for himself until he will find the beauty girl w/ all other characteristics he would deserve? He said I will wait until I find her?
He is well-educated and smart plus shy and handsome?
Is this normal OR if it is not normal how can I solve his problem?
2007-03-11 19:10:11 · 17 answers · asked by sss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes its normal... Because he actually meant what he is talking about... He is true for every word he said to you.., But love will be right there anytime.. Maybe he cant find her so he's waiting for her.
2007-03-11 19:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by rhean s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't solve a problem that isn't yours, or one that he doesn't consider to be a problem. I think it's awesome that he is waiting for the perfect girl!! That's probably the sweetest thing I have heard in a long time. However, if he waits for her to just fall from heaven, she may never come. How will he find what he is looking for....if he doesn't go out on dates to get to know them. He doesn't have to kiss anyone on his dates...anyway...I guess if he doesn't see it as a problem then you probably won't be able to change anything. Maybe you could try to talk him into going on a few double dates with you. This would give him the opportunity to get to know some girls without feeling obligated to hold hands or kiss or whatever. If that doesn't work, then accept him for who he is. Don't be concerned because he isn't. Anyway, that's all I've got! Hope that helps.
2007-03-12 02:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by Angels 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's normal.There are some guys always chasing for the pure and most ideal girl that he can ever think of. i don' t know how long he'll have to wait for that to come, but definitely wasteing some important chances in his life. There is nothing to do to solve the problem unless he can understand that there is no such thing as the prefect girl in the world. i have guy friends sounding like the friend you described and regret missing chances just because he feels that he deserves a better girl that the one that likes him now. Why wait when you can actually get one by simply looking around?
2007-03-12 02:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by ann 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not really a problem, it's just the way your friend has decided to do things.. In this day and age, relationships don't really last, especially if you are hasty and just jump into the deep end without testing the waters first.. Your friend has probably already seen this happen to his friends and family, and not willing to get hurt just for the fact of having a girlfriend..
There are many factors to starting a relationship and sometimes a lot of ground has to be covered before you are truly ready, within yourself.. Your friend is just being cautious, there is nothing wrong with that, maybe there is someone out there just for him.. And if by chance he does find the 'ONE', and things don't go the way he has planned, just be there as his friend, like you have been.. Don't pressure him to find someone, cos if things go wrong he will blame you.. Just be supportive with his decision, things will happen when its time...
2007-03-12 02:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by Nishka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMg this is SO sad, well according to today's standards its not really common. But it is normal there is nothing wrong with it.
and actually in my opinion I believe your friend is right. Tell him he is amazing! Really, how awesome would it be to finally meet that one person and give yourself fully to her?
Think how beautiful that would be! I am waiting too so I can one day give myself to the person I am meant for.
And if a guy could honestly tell me he waited for me all that time and has never dated or kissed anyone I would think he is an amazing person and know he sacraficed a lot to stay pure for me.
Chastity?
Purity?
Patience?
Anyone?? Get real people, True Love Waits.
2007-03-12 02:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by Bri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it's really normal, i mean he hasn't even kissed a girl yet? But it's like u said, maybe he's waiting for the right girl to come along...i think the only thing u can do to try to help him out is make sure that he is putting himself out there...
Because the right girl isn't just gonna appear on his front step, he's gonna have to meet her halfway
2007-03-12 02:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by mis_understood82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 22 before I found someone I wanted to date and I didn't kiss anyone before that. I have a friend who is 24 who still hasn't found someone. It's normal. I feel no need to rush into a relationship. I don't care to have one just because it's expected.
2007-03-12 02:16:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe it is possible. If it is his own prerogative, respect his decision. When the right girl comes along, I know you'll be the first one he'll inform. Don't worry about it. I had my first boyfriend when I was 25 years old, and it was by choice, too.
2007-03-12 02:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by aLLie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is happy with it then there isnt a problem. There aint anything you can do about it. Let him do what hes gotta do. Be a friend and just be there to support your friend not to get involved.
2007-03-12 02:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by Nat555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe it...i have a more than one friend who is 20 and they've never done anything.....it's not that normal for a straight guy i'd say...but i guess they are just taking their time to find the right one
2007-03-12 02:13:02 · answer #10 · answered by woodson_87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋