I have almost always fantasized about guys breaking up with their gfs/wives for me or more like trying to cheat on them with me! the reason I said "try to", because I wont actually let it happen. I am a good girl, and my conscious mind would almost always take over my subconscious mind about attracting a taken man, but I still weird that my subconscious mind is almost always trying to win a taken guy over.
a fantasy that keeps playing in my mind over and over:
a guy who is taken tries to kiss me, because he actually started liking me a lot, and I push him away and tell him "you are dating someone!" and then I walk out of the room.......
So you see, i dont really want to kiss the guy, because that is morally wrong, but i just LOVE that feeling that he is willing to take so much risk because of me....
Do any of you girls know what I am talking about? Guys, what do you feel about this?
2007-03-11 18:52:17 · 15 answers · asked by rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
uh oh...
some people need to take a chill pill
it's just a FANTASY! I dont really do anything to turn it into reality lol ...
I would probably turn suicidal myself if I find out I am wrecking someone's house. However, it is just one of those crazy fantasies that I can not help lol
2007-03-11 19:07:22 · update #1
That's totally normal. You enjoy it so much because it'd make you feel really desirable if a guy in a perfectly good relationship was willing to throw it away just for you. In other words, you like being wanted. Everyone does.
2007-03-11 18:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by alanna1star 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would it be a good thing if a guy that was married wanted you anyway? He could want any other girl too! that wouldn't mean you are speacial ! if he wanted you then he would also want someone else after you ! You must enjoy the fact of turning someone down is all i can say ! Cause if you turn them down then they will just move on to the next girl they think is easy ! I wouldn't want a married man hitting on me ! I would not respect them at all and sure wouldn't think I am specail because he was married and wanted me ! cause he will also want any woman ! that doesn't make you special or anything else !! married men that cheat flirt with all kinds of women it doesn't mean they picked only you !! and besides they see you as a one night stand and will most always go back to their wife or girlfriend !!!! No matter what !!
2007-03-11 19:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone wants to feel that they are desirable. That even though a person has someone you are still a better choice. You want to be wanted not necessarily to make someone cheat. Everyone wants to be the object of affection. It is also easy to be a good girl if you are pushing men away because of their situation and not yours. So the safe bet is unavailable unattainable men. Lots of women do this to keep from being hurt or to keep things from getting serious. If it's just a fantasy chances are it's fine and there is nothing to crazy about the feelings you have.
2007-03-11 19:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably enjoy it because you have felt unappreciated. If a man were to actually do this, it would be a sign that the guy is not only really infatuated with you, but that he appreciates you enough to take a chance. Also, you probably feel like guys don't commit to relationships well. This daydream is a situation where commitment is almost a guarantee because he is obviously fond of you.
P.S> you're not ill, just a daydreamer
2007-03-11 19:05:43 · answer #4 · answered by John F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are basically contradicting yourself. It's not moral to think and act like that; you can't think about a guy cheating on his gf or wife for you, and you don't want that to happen in real life (you kissing the guy, etc). You probably enjoy this fantasy because you love to get attention. You want to be the center of everyone's world. You like the whole thought that someone (who is dating or married) is thinking about you more than anyone else. To tell you the truth, single people like breaking up friendships just to be with that other person. For example, I did not hang out with my friends because I want to spend more time with that girl I met 2 years ago (We're dating now and planning to marry). I honestly want to say that the fantasy is unhealthy for you. This kind of desire is immoral because something in you will be tempted to make a guy cheat on his wife or gf. This would put you in the worst situation you'll ever be in your life. Trust me, there are some people other there who hate these kinds of people (like I.) I don't want to kill anyone, but if you screw around with another guy and his wife is homicidal.... then you are totally in a messed up and lethal situation. Think about other stuff such as a single man sweeping you up from your feet and taking you away from the negatives of life, instead of a dude who's in a relationship and them cheating on their beloved other.
Just try to change that fantasy... it can be fatal.
2007-03-11 19:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by Sir Guitarist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend just like you. But not married men mostly long term relationships. She wouldn't do anything but fantasize about it. She told me she loved it because it turned her on sooo much how a man who's been with a women for such a long time and has had soo much history with, would be willing to throw it all out just for her and only for sex. So it turned her on how...wow is sex everything in a relationship ? Your a great loving women but you can't hold down your man because he wants my body, my sex. she would lough and love it.... Make her feel good. In her mind it made her feel like a better women like you try so hard for your man but I could have him in a second.
2007-03-11 19:04:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL- to know that taken men wants u too (vain), &have the thrill of rejecting them (power).
Vanity & power: are a lethel combination, it has that ability to give u an adlinine rush, as well as make u conceited (or add to ur confindence as a women)-LOL
Been there done that (it was a phase in my case)
2007-03-11 19:14:46 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it remains on fantasy, I think its ok , i can understand how you can be excited by this fantasy, guys also fantasize of secret rendevouz with married woman
But its a little bit unhealthy ,cuz we tend to want to realize fantasy, and your fantasy can block the normal urge to build relationship with untaken man.
I guess you v kind of complex , you want to show your superiority over other girls by taking their lovers.
it is exactly inferior complex, maybe in your subconciousness you regard yourself not pretty enough to attract guys or you have not enough self esteem.
the sad part is you cant fully enjoy your fantasy , guilty concious appears and you withdraw .
you d better scrutinize your innerself.
2007-03-11 19:09:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be true with yourself.
You wear a mask to become someone that you not comfortable with just bcoz it is morally wrong?
Be someone that got freedom to do whatever you want, but got choice to say no, instead of someone that trying to hold volcano from being errupt.
Hope this helps :)
ps: keep yourself occupied with activities instead of spending your time alone daydreaming.
2007-03-11 19:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just want the excitement of doing something bad. You're probably bored because you've been straight with your previous relationship. Or probably u may want to unconsiously get back to someone who cheated on you.
2007-03-11 19:04:46 · answer #10 · answered by icene_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋