Okay, my girlfriend and I celebrated her birthday at the bar. When we got home she told me over and over again how much she loved me and that she was sorry that she didn't tell me enough. She is not a very affectionate person, but I am. Then two weeks later she said that she couldn't be with me anymore because she felt that I deserved somebody who was truly going to love me the way that I deserved to be loved. Does that mean that she doesn't love me or that we were better off as friends? I mean she has broken all contact with me but I just feel like I'm missing out on something. Don't we say things that we are truly feeling when we are drunk? If that's the case then why would she tell me that she loved me so much and then dump me?
2007-03-11 18:42:07 · 9 answers · asked by Patrick E 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmmm, i believe she did love, in fact she loved you so much that she was afraid she wasen't good enough for and she doesnt feel like she deserves you. I believe she still loves you but just doesnt know how to act and feels that you might treat her better than she deserves so...yeah. I'm terribly sorry about what happened but i might suggest that you go and ask her, tell her you love her, and maybe get her flowers and that you do deserve her cause she is your one and only:P
ps - getting drunk can make people do alot of crazy things, believe me!
2007-03-11 18:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somehow girls think it's comforting to say something like, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you", or "You could date anybody you want" just before breaking up with you. The bottom line is, she wants somebody else and by telling you you deserved somebody that would love you the way you deserved she's letting herself off the hook from being the bad guy by appearing to have your best interest at heart.
Move on.
2007-03-11 18:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two things her dude, she likes you but love you NOT really. You were perhaps too much of a gentleman for her and she wants to perhaps date a different kinda guy!
Now don't get me wrong, you are good and YES you deserve a woman that is gonna love you for you AND she realized that she was not the right one.
Secondly, you are about to meet Miss Right..
It is good that you are not able to talk to her b/c it would only do you more harm emotionally... So ya gotta move on.
Ask a new girl out on a date..just as friends..mingle a bit and breathe!
Have fun this spring and do you... Ole girl is out there..
You are da man. Move on and enjoy yourself too...
2007-03-11 18:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by KeraniBai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like she does love you but may feel that she can't give you the best she can. She loves you to the point that she wants you to have the best you can get. It's not always true that when you get drunk, the true feelings come out. Sometimes the opposite happens. i think the best is to wait a little while, then try to contact with her to see if everything will work out as you guys cool down a bit.
2007-03-11 18:46:03 · answer #4 · answered by ann 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she got scared. You'd rather believe what she said while drunk than what she told you sober? Her breaking total contact with you and telling you, you deserve better is a big clue. Let her go. Perhaps she needs some time without you to sort her feelings. Go on with your life, maybe she'll call back maybe she won't. Let her go.
2007-03-11 18:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but it sounds like she was drunkedly TRYING to be the gal she wanted to be for you.
You are missing out on something - a girlfriend who is perfect for you!
She said it herself, there's better girls out there for you. She didn't love you romantically. That's what you need to believe, not fake drunken mushiness.
Sorry, but its best for you to move on as soon as possible instead of wondering all these questions so I'm just telling you the truth.
Good luck I don't have to know you to promise you that you'll be ok!
2007-03-11 18:48:19 · answer #6 · answered by MissDixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has broken off all contact, there must be a reason. Did she tell you the reason? Or maybe she is erratic. But no, I don't think we neccessarily say what we are truly feeling when we are drunk.
2007-03-11 18:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she cares about you, but she's not in love with you. She's trying to let you know that she realizes you are a nice guy, but the two of you, for whatever reason, aren't a good fit.
2007-03-11 18:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by Kristi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either she was telling the truth, and maybe you're too demanding or too good for her, or THAT is the oldest break up line in the book, besides "It's not you,it's me"
2007-03-11 18:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋