I went to school and fell in love with Brett. Now I have moved 3000 miles away to attend the school of my dreams. Brett and I didn't think long distance was for us, but we have seen eachother a few times since, and each time fell more and more in love. Now it is absolutly heart breaking everytime we seperate. The Problem is, we don't want to do a long distance relationship because we don't think we can make it work, yet we are not really single either because if we were to date anyone else, it would be heartbreaking. Does anyone have an suggestions on how to solve this problem?
2007-03-11 18:32:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It entirely depends on what your future plans are. Do you see yourself living near him in the near future? Or is it going to be years and years before you might be in the same area? Or will you ever be in the same area?
The thing about long distance relationships is that they are not real relationships.
You never know what it would be like if you were living together, or near eachother, if your entire relationship is over the phone.
If you're going to be apart for years, forget about it.
2007-03-11 18:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by D L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there are successful long distance love relationships....But in your case you both have a strong perception that it will be a failure. So with that it is definitely will be difficult to maintain the relationship. In a long distance relationship trust and understanding are the key elements. It has to be at the maximum level.
I know that it will be really difficult break up with a person that you love whole heartedly. So you have two options.
Option1-Have a long distance relationship
If you have a very high level of understanding and a high level of trust on each other it is definitely possible. But still there are some little things that you should keep in your mind. When talking with her over the phone or net dont talk for too long(max can be limited to 45mins). And dont talk every day , just talk once in two or three days. And stop being too much available for your partner (it is key in a long distance relationship). Coz then your partner get the feeling that she might loose you, so she will give her optimum potential to make the relationship work. Human nature is such that, when they feel that they are being given less priority, they tend to try harder to be your top priority. Dont think that its like cheating on you partner. Definitely not. You are doing that to make your relationship work. And mainly be true to yourself, meaning that dont take undue advantage as your partner is so far a way. Try to meet your partner atleast once in four months. (this process worked for me perfectly)
Option 2- Compromise and prioratize
If you still feel that a long distance relationship will not work, then prioratize. That is if your partner cant come to the place you are staying, try and understand which is more important in your life, your college or your partner.
My personal opinion-
I personally feels that if you two love each other so much, a long distance relationship is always possible.
Anyway all the best to you!!!!I hope you would make the right life long decision!!!!
2007-03-11 19:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by banju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fret too much, just relax. Good for you that you are attending the school of your dreams. If you don't think the long distance will work, then you can consider staying in touch but not pursuing a long distance relationship. In any case, you should focus on thriving at the school of your dreams, I know it is hard, but stay in touch with Brett, and I know it is cliched but if it is meant to be, it will happen. Just don't panic too much about the distance; the distance broke me up with my boyfriend, but we are still in touch and will meet up soon in April and may get back together...really, as long as you stay in touch, if you are meant to be together, it should work out. Just relax and throw yourself into your studies.
2007-03-11 18:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have faith in your relationship! if its working now then dont doubt that you cant make it last until things can change. my bfs grandma says "absence makes the heart grow fonder"...and it sounds like that has already proven true.
so perservere. it takes some time but its worth it if you really love him!
2007-03-11 18:38:46 · answer #4 · answered by buff23_7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do no longer might desire to rigidity your self to look after him You meet him and in case you do in comparison to him that's it. you will meet somebody else. and four hrs away isn't that a techniques. I talk with a girl in eire now thats a techniques.yet you do no longer might desire to love him. for this reason you meet just to verify.
2016-10-18 04:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by balick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋