New boyfriend doesnt like oral?

Question

my new bf says he's not really into recieving oral, it does nothing for him.
He really likes giving oral, and sex.
should I just continue this pattern or ask if he wants me to try it on him, or what?

Answer 1

But sure that some men (probably very few) did not get stimulated by oral sex. Interestingly enough when surveyed for my book Girlstellall 25% of the man said they only liked it as a prelude to intercourse. The most requested sexual act by prostitutes is a oral sex.

I think everyone here is missing the real question. It sounds like you like giving oral sex and its a turn on (for many women this is true). You find it is part of the foreplay that is now missing.

If you plan on staying together for a long time then certainly sexual compatibility is an important issue. I would ask your boyfriend has anyone given him all sex that he liked? If he says no ... then he may not find it physically stimulating or there's something psychological that he feels is dirty or unclean about it and this makes them feel uncomfortable.

There are many more women that don't mind giving oral sex but when it comes to receiving it they may not like it or feel comfortable with. It's a strange duality.

If your boyfriend says yes he enjoys oral from other women.. then your technique which has worked well with others may not fit his fancy.

Either way you have to have an open discussion about it.... but don't drive him crazy over it.

Mark
author GirlsTellAll

Answer 2

Find out what he really does like and do that for him instead. No big deal. Would be a hell of a lot worse if he did not want to GIVE you oral.

Answer 3

There is the occasional guy that way. Don't feel alone, my hubby is the same way. Give it some time and maybe he'll wanna share more detail with you. Until then enjoy what you can with him and don't feel guilty. You can ask if he'd like you to try, but I would give it some time.

Answer 4

you choose yet another bf. I provide my gf oral as many cases as she would be able to enable. certainly that's one the final sexual acts to accomplish on a woman. appears like somebody purely likes to receive yet no longer provide. there is no particular lesson to coach right here. Its like, do you choose training on licking an icecream lol. to boot my female clamps my head into place of the place it feels good for her. the way she leads me in oral is definitely arousing for me to delight her. If he wont lick the p*ssy, then possibly he's a p*ssy himself.

Answer 5

Sammy, an adult would know that this personal info should not be written about--so you must be a kid---and worrying about all this as a kid means you know nothing--means you shouldn't be doing this until you learn how an adult would handle it---pleasure is fun--not a job or a task--if something isn't working--try a different thing---god, get a grip

Answer 6

No means no. If he doesn't like to be orally stimulated, don't press the issue.

Answer 7

hhmm.....Maybe he's had a bad experience.
I have never in my life even heard of a guy that doesnt love to receive.
Maybe in time....you'll be able to get him there.
But it kind of sounds like a project....good luck.

Answer 8

There will be a time and a place for him to be curious if he is missing something hopefully your there to make him like it

Answer 9

wow he doesnt like a bj....wow...wow..he must have a weird past or something..lol..jk....thats really suprising though...never heard of a guy doesn't like to get sucked off

Answer 10

It seems he has already answered your question. Just be yourself and allow him to be himself too.