Ok, I went out with this girl I really like,even though it took me a couple months to build enough courage to ask her out. Well, we went out a couple weeks ago, and it seemed she had a good time. But here's the thing while at the movies, when she was leaning on me she kept looking up at me, so I had a feeling she wanted me to kiss her so I did. And we kissed here and there throughout the night. but I somthin is bothering her about going on a second date alone with me. Long story short, her friend told me that she said things are moving to fast and that we really dont know each other,even though I believe she made the first move.So to make her feel comfortable I told her lets go to sixflags with her friends next week,so it would take some pressure off her. But do you guys think its ok to hold her hand at least, or is that still moving to fast. And When she says things are moving to fast where are the boundaries between fast and not so fast.
2007-03-11 18:23:29 · 12 answers · asked by 619 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should really be asking her this question, I mean if she honestly seemed to be making the first move or not, she still didn't pull away from several kissing sessions from the sounds of it....
maybe she's having second thoughts...and btw if her friend had to tell you, then you need to either write her a "note" or try someone your own age....
2007-03-11 18:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off did she except the offer? There is no real boundaries as in moving to fast and not, it is totally up to the individual that you are dating. I would not make the next move when at sixflags. Let her initate the romance but I would make her feel safe around you by not leaving her side. Cut up and have fun she probably wants to be friends first and see how good you and her get along on a communication level first before bring in the romantic stuff.
2007-03-11 18:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by Rigssy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow ok, she's were given plenty goin on. If she's nevertheless callin you thats a sturdy signal. i might want to offer her some area. dont call her as a lot and dont hangout for a lengthy time period, that is going to def be difficult. besides the undeniable fact that that is going to offer her the gap and time she desires to fig issues out. If she comes operating back then she of course realized that she needs you to affix her existence. From the sounds of it she would not opt for to lose you she merely were given wrapped up in something quickly, and now she merely has to allow her mind capture up. Its favourite for females to do this. and if she asks why you sponsored off tell her the reality. that you've been respecting her area cuz you wanna allow her fig issues out. and that you fairly care about her, and didnt wanna push her into something she wasn't waiting for. and that when she is waiting, to furnish you a decision. because on a similar factor you dont wanna be strung alongside and damage both. she will be able to entice close you for this and comprehend what an outstanding guy you're for taking her into interest a lot! wish all is going properly!
2016-10-17 11:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, from a womans pov
1 she could be saying that because her gfs are giving her grief about kissing you on the first date
2 she could of not liked the way you kissed
3 she is a c*#k tease
I would ask her, privately of course, over the phone is usually a good place, what is too fast for her and go from there. be honest with her and let her know you're confused.
2007-03-11 18:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by Susan 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you guys are dating, why cant she tell YOU not her friend that youre moving to fast?! She'll be like that throught the whole relationship then, telling her friends to tell you.
She means dont hit on me... yet. or never heh. Girls are confusing. But if a girl did that, that does seem like a hint, she probably doesnt know what she wants
2007-03-11 18:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it means they need air and they need space when you want to hold her hand maybe complement on her dress instead and incourege her to invite friends over or have a friends day at the spa this alows her to feel like shes not in a cell with just you.
2007-03-12 06:00:04 · answer #6 · answered by hotbitch_9476 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're overthinking this.
Don't.
If you want to know what she meant, you should ask her, "What did you mean when you said I was moving too fast?" And even a "Would you like to be the one to make the first move?" wouldn't hurt.
2007-03-11 18:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let her try and hold your hand..
Just act as friends with her intill she is ready..
She doesn't know her standards.. and i've been in the same situation as her
It will just be awkward if you try and rush things along and if shes new at dating.. She might just be experimenting things
You'll know when shes ready , believe me
2007-03-11 18:28:41 · answer #8 · answered by MeganElizabeth 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Man, welcome to young love--millions of kids go through this stuff---too fast is just that--let her set the pace--just go out and have fun--don't think about handholding, kissing, or anything else. JUST HAVE FUN---by doing the waiting you are showing respect--a sign of maturity--you'll see--she will love to go out with you and eventually you will have closeness---then what?? sex?? Nope--too young--so you better just be cool and let yourselves have fun without worrying about all this stuff. believe me--she will enjoy your company if you just do the right thing--we all like handholding and smooching---just let it happen naturally. have fun and good luc---oh--stop talking about it with others---mind your own business.
2007-03-11 18:31:22 · answer #9 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She clearly likes it very slow, though kissing you wasn't major.
2007-03-11 18:28:03 · answer #10 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋