Why am I feeling this way?

Question

I was w this wonderful person for 5 years. We started young & we were both our first loves. 5 weeks ago she decided to end it due to unresolved issues, hectic schedule & the imminent decision for her to leave the country next year indefinitely. Over the course of the past month, I've come to terms with the situation.

I found new ambitions to somehow work my career so dat our paths may cross again. I wanted to move on, in a way where I'd let go of her, but keep my feelings for her withheld within me. I indulged myself in healthy sports & old interests readily as a result.

Last week, I got to know dat she was in a state of confusion. Confusion about what exactly, I'm not sure. A near accident drove me to visit her last night to say things before I might never have the chance to. Unfortunately, she was tired & talking seemed ptless. I left then, but I realise I too had no feelings left for her. It didn't matter if I had spoken to her last night.

I've become what I tried to not be. Why?

Answer 1

You sound like you are protecting yourself so you shut down your feelings.What can you do if she wants to leave.Do you
think if things were meant to be you would let go so easy.No.
You have given all you could to the relationship now you are tired and ready to just let go.It takes two people giving100%
to one another.You need same goals.You need to live in same country.Hectic times are over for now...

Answer 2

She has the 5 year itch... and your internal automatic defense mechanisms have been engaged to help you deal your feelings in this situation and stop you getting badly emotionally hurt.

Answer 3

That is life, best know now eh!

Answer 4

Everything "in" at a Life...........move on.

Answer 5

wadda shame.....good luck