so much depends on words...?

Question

i was really feeling the vibe with this girl. our intense but short lived romance flowed like a love letter full of all the sweetness that is not always without some degree of self-generated obsession. anyhow, this girl is somewhat of a jealous possessor, keeps questioning me about "booty calls". so i told her out of respect and dignity for the situation that i have had some hook-ups but don't treat it like a crime sugarpuss--i was single and by sheer act of thoughtful impulse pulled off some consensual fun legit-like. nxt thing you know, she text me and says she's working full time a day job and a night job, can't chill no more. what kind of taurine-defecation is this? so i was quick to give her the classic proverbial "f**k you". but since i'm philosophical about the ups and downs of my life, i would like to invite you to tell me just what's up with this chick? everything was cool until i told her about my pass hook-ups. just cuz i was honest she had to dis me? or something else?

thanks for all your help peeps. i appreciate your stopping by and inputting your views. having said that, i think some of you are taking off on the wrong exit and jumping to conclusions. but i'm open minded and your voice adds wisdom to this otherwise sullen state.

Answer 1

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. If she was basically just another booty call, why sweat it is if she left? If you have a past of not really caring just getting your pipes cleaned. Sure she will ask about your past booty calls. SHE DONT WANT TO BE THE NEXT ONE. Should she get upset about all your hook ups? No. It was her who wanted to know. But it is logical that she would be upset. One, because each wants to feel like the center of the wheel in a relationship, specially one they are willing to get vested in. Seems like she was getting vested in the union and you certainly were not. But if you truy had it bad for her(if only for a minute)would you want to hear about how many pipes she cleaned and how? I don't think so. What you felt for her was not love. You never onced said you loved her or even liked her. Just like being with her. That is like eating the food but not really enjoying the meal. That is why it was easy to spout off "f*** y**" to her because you don't care. What you care is that YOUR EGO is bruised, not that you care about losing her. You want vendication that YOU are right and she was wrong. Some might blow smoke up your a** and tell you that, but not here. You asked, you get it hot from the oven and not buried under a lot of cheese. Forget about it. Move on. There are other bopty call awaiting. And so long as that is all it is, and you donot see yourself with them 15 years from now, don't worry, be happy.

Answer 2

Dude if you was not that into her why are you sweating it? You are obviously not ready to be in a serious relationship and per your words she was obsessive and jealous which is not a good combo when you are just in it for the ride. My advice to you is next time you hook up with a woman for some free romantic relations let her know that you are not in this for the long haul. Then it is up to her to see if she can tame your wild side or just like the wild ride with you.

Answer 3

Who is it that has the issue, you or her? All relationships begin with the one we have with ourselves. So, have a good relationship with yourself. Learn to love yourself, to accept yourself without judgment. When you can learn to live comfortably with yourself,then what other people do won't become an issue for you. If you can honor yourself, then what others do won't affect you...and what you do will always honor you. Your choice of Friends will honor you. Your choice of everything will honor your. So when you look at a woman and wonder if you want to spend time with her you will know that spending time with her will honor you...or not. If the answer is "not", then you won't waste your time with her. And you won't have these issues come up. If you do spend time with a woman whose actions are not in congruence with yours, then you will come to recognize this and simply let her go. You don't need to send the f**k you message, that doesn't honor you and probably won't impact her. Conserve your energies.

Answer 4

Now you know not to talk about past girlfriends to your next one -- it is a negative to talk about. If she presses you to answer, just give her funny answers. But don't lose your temper, dude.

Answer 5

its that y chromosome...