ok my step does not want to let me go and see my real mom. i have been emailing my real mom and this is how i know. But she confronted my stepmom about and i get to go. my stepmom blamed it on her fear of flying.. ha ha funny i have been flying by my self since i was 5!!!!! so ya. but all the time she is super strict. i can never see my boyfriend of over 3 months outside of school. But anyway, how can i talk to my stepmom, who "tattles" on me to my dad all the time, about how i feel about her strictness? and i tried to before and it didn't go so well. my bf was allowed over once with his older sister who drove him to my house, all thanks to my dad, he had never met him before, but he and my mom got in a fight about it, a little one, in the end my dad won, then when he and sis got there my mom would not turn around and say hi, she later told me that he came over only cuz i "bitched to my dad..." her exact words. SOME ONE HELP ME!!!!!
2007-03-11 18:05:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First you don't say how old you are. I suggest you sit your father down and let him know that you want to go see your mom. It is really none of your step moms business. I don't understand why your father does not stand up to her. Maybe your mother talking to him would help. I am a stepmom but I don't have to deal with my stepdaughter's mother because she passed away but I try to do everything for her that her mother would have wanted. That is the way it should be. Good luck
2007-03-11 23:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by kelsey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a battle of wits here---you better back off because you won't win--only going to get worse---be cool and relax---she is up to something and gets the chance to do whatever that is everytime you two battle about something---this is not new--millions of kids go through it. I am being brutally honest---slow down--back off, just be nice and cool it for a while. you don't give an age--but my senses say you are young--too young for the boyfriend issues--so keep that on the light side. You are getting older--you should take the time to make a few plans for how the future will be---now it seems as if it will be terrible---all your fault because you won't backoff---do the right thing--now be nice for a while--and stop running to daddy all the time--I think you just don't want to admit you don't like the remarriage thing--you are manipulating when you resort to what you do. Not at all nice. try showing maturity--talk nice--do your school work, when you are 18 you can do what you want--slow down and take it easy here. Good luck
2007-03-11 18:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Laurie, you're in a bind. First I would suggest a talk with your dad. Point out that regardless of how he may feel about his ex wife, he and she are the mother of you, and that relationship will exist as long as the three of you are alive. So denying it because one of you feels poorly about hte relationship doesn't mean the other two have to agree. Here, if you and your birth mother want to communicate, ask him why not, and why not be together? As for step mom, she is doing the best she can. Imagine the challenges she faces in dealing with her husband who just happens to have a child with another woman. This is very challenging for step mom. How is she going to deal with you? She wants you approval but doesn't know how to ask for it. So sit down with her and ask how she believes the two of you can improve your relationship? Such a conversation will be worth while. Try it.
2007-03-11 18:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel for you i too had an evil step mother LOL and now im a step mom myself i dont udnerstand why step moms treat there children this way ..but maybe ur stepmom know more about ur real mother then you do ( probably from ur dad) and she dont wanna see u get hurt ..or it could be that shes jealous ..either way ur stuck until ur 18 or u go live with ur mom ( if the conditions are right for you ) i left my step mom when i was 15 i went to live with my mother and her b/f now for me this was the best but i dont know whats best for you ..but im here if you wanna talk i have been there im 25 i left at 15 ...email me touchmeforever2004@yahoo
best of luck
2007-03-11 21:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by touchmeforever2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that your step mother is insecure about her relationship to you and is overcompensating for her feelings by being over- strict.
Blended families are difficult.
We have one, and it hasn't always been easy with my son and husband.
It takes some time to "feel"each other out--it isn't like your mom and dad who have known you since, well, forever.
It sounds corny, but rent that movie, "Stepmom" with her and watch it together, I'm sure it will create an interesting conversation.
Be calm with her.
I know it is difficult at your age, but think before you act and react.
Think about what outcome you are going for before you react.
You can't control her behavior, but you can your own.
Be respectful, even when she doesn't really deserve it. Actions beget actions.
Good luck
If it helps, my son and husband are extremely close now.
2007-03-11 18:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by smp1969 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really want to help ok first i would tell her how you feel or talk to your dad about how you feel. I would start asking your dad if you can see your bf thats what i would do
hope that helped
2007-03-11 18:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by petehrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused. What do you want to know? Talk to your dad. This seems to be working.
2007-03-12 08:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋