Why do girls like guys that treat them wrong?

Question

Let's say I like this girl that wouldn't do anything with me as just friends, and would never hug me even though she ony hugs with half her body. Yet she hugs and goes everywhere with a guy that she left a comment on his myspace page saying "I'M NEVER MEAN TO YOU! YOU'RE ALWAYS MEAN TO ME!" Meanwhile, I'm over here like "Hello, I'm the one that cares about you!" And she don't even seem to care. I know its her choice, who she likes and doesn't like, but still, I just wish she'd think about what it could be like to be with me.

Is it just a mater of finding a girl that likes nice boys, and me not trying to be something I'm not? (in other words, not sweet). I just have this soft spot for girls espeacially those I like

Wait, I meant some girls. Sorry :(

Actually, she just cut me clean off, we don't talk and I want her back

Answer 1

they fell that she has to want more, and some girls enjoy the challenge

Answer 2

Hey there... This prob of yours really sounds very familiar... Remember there was this phrase that goes like, "If you want to be a good girl, get yourself a bad boy!"

Well, maybe this girl that you fancies find thrills in this guy who she has the hots for!!! As for you, she find things too predictable and knows that you will definitely be there whenever she needs you. Something like a door mat or punching bag. Sad but true... So, maybe you ought to do a little bit of play hard to get or lets jz say do not be there for her always... Go out and find new people that you can converse openly and intellectually... Without realising, you see how your life can actually improve...

But then again, being a bad boy does not mean being real "bad"... Try to do some soul searching and move on!!!

Answer 3

Crazy! It's like you're on the animal channel where they describe the mating habits of baboons. 'The female of the species seeks the toughest, hardest to get, most confident male who doesn't look desperate for a date.'

I mean, girls do like nice guys but they don't dream about them. They need someone they respect and trust who is strong enough for both of you. For one thing, girls might doubt your sincerity and think you're just trying to fool them. They like a challenge.

Some girls see a guy who doesn't really fit their personality and try to change the guy and they think they're winning a prize. Then the girl might not like this guy when he changes and then dump him anyway. People either fit together or they don't. Otherwise, they're miserable.

Eventually, she may get tired of this guy playing with her. For some reason he can't tell her why he's being a jerk. He can't relate to her for some reason and he's holding her at a safe distance. Maybe there are other girls he likes. Maybe this girl has issues with her dad she's trying to work out with another man.

He could dump her tommorow for somebody else or she could just get tired of him. At that time, she might need someone like you to be a friend. For now, don't act mad at her or cling to her. Just give it time and see what happens and stay busy with your friends and activities. If this doesn't work out, he next one will probably have more of the qualities you're looking for in a girl. You never know. Oh, yeah and avoid the 'friend trap' where she leans on you while she's between relationships and dumps you when she's feeling better. Protect yourself until you know for sure if it's ever going to go anywhere.

Answer 4

I dont know. May be we the bad men are very confident and emotionally strong that girls think that if they are with us they will be fine, or may be girls think that they can saddle this wild horse and make it their lover and have a nice ride. or something else. But you can never be someone you are not. Dont even try dude. Wait a bit, get a little older then you will see girls are lookin for nice, commited men like you.
Everything in this world is just an illusion, somehow everythink works out, except of some stupid things, that keep haunting us for the rest of our life. Good men like you will have a happy ending, and bad men like us will have a raugh one.

Answer 5

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. The reason women choose rough neck thugs is because in spite of what their mouth says, their actions speak loud and clear. Women subconsciously want to be told what to do. they want men that are men Not sensitive effeminate men. Instead of the secure, logical, button down man going somewhere they want the thug because he is excitement and power. They are like the flashy red sports car that looks so good pulling up to the curb in. They ignore or make excuses for all the times they have been left stranded on the road because of the crappy engine or lousy tranny. They will put up with what they would not take from family members. And defend these idiots to the teeth because they don't want anyone saying "I told you so". Ignorance? Apathy? Who knows why they do it, but they keep doing it. Maybe they figure they have the special mojo that will make him give up his destructive ways. Then they can say they were more woman than all the others who could not save him. Like lasting the whole ride on the back of the meanest bull at the rodeo. But why would they do that? To turn him into that dependable, hard working but bland guy they passed up in the 1st place? Go figure?

Answer 6

The nice guy always finishes last,because there must be some excitement and intensity in relationships to keep them going.So an occasional snare is good and shows you're not entirely boring.Flirting and joking,hey, look at me I can be
a Bad Boy too.You know.Good Luck. Show interest but give space.

Answer 7

Girls have a tendency to date under their class. My old Sunday school teacher said it best,

"Do you guys want to know what I did to get my wife to fall for me? So would I."

Girls have a need to feel that they are loved, some more obsessively than others. Often they will go to total losers because they don't feel like they will be dumped (no rejection no pain, in theory).

Overall, I hear ya'. I play "big brother" to alot of girls, and their choices in men really sicken me. Once in a while, they pick a winner, but they usually get dropped fast.
Such a case occurred just today in fact. I met the guy and after he was gone she asked what I thought. . . "I thought I raised you better than that."

Answer 8

Girls like to think they can change the "bad boys", but they never do. Every woman gets to the point where she understands that it will never happen and that's when they pursue people worth dating.

Give her time and be her friend, but don't wait around too long, there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

Answer 9

Girls go for mean guys because they lack the self confidence to find someone better! If you're sweet and nice to her, it's possible that she doesn't feel like she deserves the attention. Another thing is, sometimes we get so rapped up in persuing one guy, we totally don't give credit to that great guy friend who was with us all along!
So...keep being that great guy friend, and if you keep building her confidence by being nice, she'll notice you! ^_~

Nice guys always win!

Answer 10

Some girls like bad boys, because they think theres a bit more excitment in the relationship, even if they are being treated wrong. Some girls just find "perfect" relationships a bit boring.


... its not you, its her

Answer 11

You have to play to cool dude. Chicks have girlfriends to be close with and treat them well. Being too nice and caring isn't a turn on to girls. It doesn't make sense, but that's the way it is.