I really enjoy receiving a massages.. I crave a women's touch.. and she doesn't want to do it... she doesnt have the energy/desire... she always turns it around on me, "Why don't you give me one??!?"... and I do.... but I feel like she should want to do that for me, as my potential life partner and someone who supposedly loves me so deeply... I'm in great shape and am a good looking guy!
2007-03-11 17:45:18 · 15 answers · asked by byroni 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love is demonstrated in self-sacrificial ways. Giving someone a massage when you are tired is one way to do that. My wife like to get massaged but sometimes I am tired and do it anyway because I love her. Your fiance' sounds immature and selfish. I would dump her quick. A marriage cannot work when one spouse is selfish.
2007-03-11 17:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by Cybeq 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why...she could be apprehensive about her massage skills. I'm a professional massage therapist and I have to tell you....giving a full massage is exhausting!!! If you're doing after working a full day somewhere else, even for a loved one, it's quite a chore. Maybe take your fiance to a spa and get a couples massage from professionals...they are usually done with both of you in the same room and may just make her want to give and receive more massages!
2007-03-14 00:12:24 · answer #2 · answered by yogazen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it's not you or your looks, and yes, I'd say it's normal. After being comfortable in a relationship for so long (as I'm sure you two are, seeing as you're engaged) sometimes we don't feel it's necessary to do those things... and we also get a bit selfish. If you guys spoil us girls for so long, we get used to it and don't realize how greedy we're being. Trust me, it doesn't mean your fiance loves you any less if she doesn't massage you, just tell her she's not getting one until you get yours!
2007-03-11 17:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reminds me of a selfish EX of mine. That lame excuse of being to tired is pathetic and just plain BS. If you are in love enough with someone to want to marry them you should be open for any reasonable kind of affectionate activities . No this is not normal.Selfish people don't make good marriage partners. I've just divorced one, I couldn't take it no more.
2007-03-11 18:13:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not normal. If you feel this person may be your "life partner" then she should want to do things like give you massages. And if she has no desire....find out why, because that might get worst in the future...like never wanting sex.
2007-03-11 17:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by alissa4boo@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I m not sure maybe she is tired, but make sure at the same time she's not cheating on you.. Of course I am not in your situation so I don't know the actual situation... but she could just be tired.. who knows rite?
2007-03-11 17:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by Rain L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a serious warning sign and when you are married things will just get worse. You have to take time an seriously reevaluate your relationship.
2007-03-11 17:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by Rabble Rouser 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's normal especially since this is suppsed to be the time that you guys are so in love it makes others want to puke. but you might want to ask her about it and tell her that.
2007-03-11 17:51:03 · answer #8 · answered by Suya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I give my husband massages even when I'm exhausted because I love him. He shows me love in his way and I show him love in my way.
2016-03-27 18:10:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she doesn't want to because she's afraid that she wont be good at giving massages. i know thats what my excuse would be if i wouldnt give my man one.
2007-03-11 17:52:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋