we've had sex 3 times since aug. she says she just not into sex and her ex's had the same problem with her.my ex's that i talk to say she's crazy cause it's not my lack of sexuallity . should i tell her goodby?I thought eveyone liked sex. am i wrong?
2007-03-11 17:41:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do you know that drinking will cause a person sex drive to be non-existent... maybe your girlfriends past time has caught up with her.....or she could just be a person with a low sex drive...I doubt it has anything to do with you or your sexual appeal..if it did ..she wouldn't be with you.....
truly, It sounds like your girl has some issues...and your best bet would be to have her see a doctor..if you can get her to agree to it..if not, there probably isn't much you can do.....
I have to say , you have been really patient with her..three times since August...this would be hard for any man or healthy person with much of a sex drive to go "without"....if she is truly not into have relations and won't see anybody about this...than you are going to have to decide if you can live this way or not....I feel for you..it is a rough place to be put into......
hope everything works out for you......
2007-03-11 18:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by LeftField360 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people need to deal with their emotional baggage before getting involved with others. Your girlfriend may not like sex and their could be underlying reasons as to why?
However if you are adult enough to have a sexual relationship in order for it to work you need to discuss problems like lack of libido and what could be causing it?
Be supportive but let her know how you feel, because in time you may feel rejected and have a low self esteem because of her constant rejection and she needs to know this.
It is good your ex says you don't lack sexuality, but you should not be discussing private matters about your girlfriend with her. Imagine how she would feel if she found out.
Not everyone likes sex, if you feel you love her you will work it out, if not let her go. If you are a young boy, all you can ever do is think about sex.
If you don't have it now with you current relationship you may in the future look else where. This is how it all starts sometimes.
Good luck
2007-03-12 00:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women are different sexually.
A small percentage of women can orgasm with just intercourse, but many cannot.
The problem is that she is not having an orgasm.
She should explore her body, and if she does not want to, you should take initiative and do it for her (with her consent of course).
You should take care of her "special" spots.
Do some research on the web... just not porn because not everything in it works and much of it is fantasy.
Good luck
2007-03-12 00:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by <3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
www.sexaddictionhelp.com
have her take the self help test and see if she has any of the symptoms
this addiction can cause you to lose sexual interest in your primary partner due to the shame associated with it
she could be cheating on you-the substance abuse is a huge red flag for sure
2007-03-12 01:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
say goodbye, she is more into getting F'd up than getting F'd.
Its not you - its not anything to do with you. Its simply that getting mentally altered has more appeal to her. Which says a lot if you think about it.
Tell her to get some help, on your way out the door.
BTW - I've been in her spot - so I know what I'm talking about on this one.
2007-03-12 00:48:13 · answer #5 · answered by freshbliss 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok you cannot dump a girl just because she doesnt want to have sex. I know girls are complicated... but somethimes it really isnt you its her. And if anything if you force her she is going to not want to have sex even more because you forced her. I sex is the only thing that you like her for you shouldnt be together, but if you truly love her you will get over it.
2007-03-12 00:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by horse girly 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
some people are just not sex machines! i think she has a problem , she should see a doctor
2007-03-12 00:45:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her a massage, candles, bubble bath, and some aphrodisiacs. If she doesn't respond, dump her.
2007-03-12 00:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by Butch Cassidy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on man she has a lot of hangups her brain must be fried.
2007-03-12 00:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Leave her if you don't like it.
There is always someone for you, eventually.
You will find her if you keep looking.
2007-03-12 00:45:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋