I went out with this guy for seven and a half months. he was my first love. i will honestly, never forget him. i love him more than he knows. still to this day. it affects my present and future relationships also. im always comparing guys to him. i try to replace him, he wasnt the greatest boyfriend... he was... sometimes verbally abusive, but i was in denial... didnt know. but now, every relationship i get in or have, i always find something wrong with them. it takes a while, but i do. then after a month or two, i get bored of them, find faults, then want my ex back. its been two years. and im still going insane over him. i want to be normal. forget about him. forget the memories. help. please
2007-03-11 17:36:26 · 6 answers · asked by needs_lost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
time. sorry, there is no other answer.
2007-03-11 17:40:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you actually WANT to get over him you have to take away the reminders, pictures, songs, etc.... Don't compare others to him...this is unfair for you and those "others". You will never forget your first love and healing is a long and hard journey. The older you are the more serious you were about the relationship and thus it may take longer to heel. I still love my first love, but I got over it by involving myself and my time in activities that occupy my mind away from things that trigger memories of her. However in my case we go back together a couple years later. The reason your so attached is because you learned so much in that relationship and probably gave alot too. Try to learn from someone new and give in a different direction. And get your rest, dont stay up thinking about him...go to sleep and wakeup thinking its a brand new day. I know its not easy, i've been there-it takes time and patience...sorry best wishes
2007-03-12 00:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by MrMeT00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know what to say, because I almost have the same problem. I guess with him it's a lost cause. A guy might come along that you won't find fault with and he'll make you forget about that 1st clown.
2007-03-12 00:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know how to help u, coz im in the same situation. i understand how u feel completely, dont know what can help u, but u're not alone out there to feel like this. be strong.
2007-03-12 00:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just really hard to get over someone who stole your heart, i dont even have the answer for you, except that , you learn more about life and connect with more people and have more hobbies.
2007-03-12 00:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just find something to do and keep yourself busy... Just give it time and you'll be over it... it takes time to love and it takes time to get over love...
2007-03-12 00:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by Rain L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋