What is the best way to ask a girl out?

Question

There is this girl in one of my classes and i am pretty sure she likes me, but I am not quite sure how to ask her out. I know how, but I'd like some advice on specifics. Thanks!

Answer 1

Determining the way to ask a girl out is often made more difficult than it should be. It is not a production, it is a "question" and in some cases it is a "suggestion". Keeping it casual is important to her because if the answer is not what you want it to be then you both will be a little uncomfortable and you will have to become the best Academy Award winning actor in history as you walk with your tail between your legs on the walk of shame.

The HOW in asking a girl will do a lot with the WHEN & WHERE.

The how is simple: ASK.

Try to avoid the NO by making suggestions. Suggestions such as: "We should check that place out sometime" is not a question and does not require a yes or no answer. Another way is, "I love dancing what about you?" You can "suggest" many different ways of doing many different things in the same context. "Suggestions" are made when the target is "warm", which means you don't know for sure if they are on the same page as you and you want to find out. When you "suggest" and she likes the idea, she will jump on it right away.

If the suggestion does not sound appealing to her then you will know it from her reaction and you won't have to wear the shame of rejection because you did not really ask anything out right.


She Expects YOU To Ask Her

When getting a woman to go out on a date with you, its YOUR job not hers to ask, so don't wait for her to send you an email that says, "Hey doofus call me tonight at 8:00", because it ain't gonna happen genius. You are the dominant of the two sexes and even though we live in a liberated world where they allow women to vote, you must still open doors for her and ask her out.

The specific when is not that simple as the "how" because each of us is different and when we meet someone new, they are not the same as the last. It is as if each of us has a different combination to the solution. The WHEN for her however is going to be when it is SAFE. Understand that females always want to feel safe and secure even in the modest of moments. Putting her on the spot or pressuring her is the not the way to go.

Nor is doing it in front of strangers because you don't know what the relationship dynamic is in the group, you could potentially embarrass her in front of her religious parents and ruin the deal even though she is a total whore in the bedroom.

Where to go on a date or even where you will "suggest" you will go is dependant on what little you know about her and what you know about women in general. In general women like food and drink, they like a lively atmosphere, and they like to be TREATED.

So to backtrack a bit from how & when, an all encompassing way to ask her out should be TRADITIONAL. For instance: "I have really enjoyed talking with you, would you like to have dinner with me sometime?" That sentence covers it all; you have given her a compliment and asked her politely to share your company at your expense.

I've made it a point to watch a lot of old movies because back in the day men were polite when they would ask women out, such as the example above. Another way to be straight forward and spontaneous is skip the compliment and in the middle of general conversation simply interrupt with, "Would you have a drink with me this weekend?" as if you could not hold out to ask any longer.

See how we are covering the how, when & where of asking her out all at once? If not just read it again.


Asking Her Out

Asking a girl out on a date is not about formulas so much as it is about TIMING and CHEMISTRY. If you have chemistry right from the outset then timing won't even be as important. Timing is more about being in the right place at the right time to meet Ms. Rightnow before there is some one beats you to it. It will be the chemistry that tells you WHO the target is, WHEN and HOW to ask her out and WHERE to take her. So put on your best suit of confidence, wear a warm smile, and go hunting for hostages.

Answer 2

Ah, I've been through this time and again.

Now, I've not been on a date in quite some time, but what I can suggest is this: don't EVER *subtly* hint out that you'd like to ask her out, for that will just look silly and make you appear as though you're beating around the bush.

Be straightforward! Tell her how you feel and that you'd like to ask her out. Lay nothing on strongly, but also don't make things too hidden. Ask her out to something simple first, perhaps to a juice bar or something not-too-fancy. This is most essential.

Answer 3

for me ..if u wana ask a girl out..it would be really nice if you do it like in the after nood when the sun is setting or at night would be really cool.

then get her alone. say" i've really like you..and was wondering if you want to go out? " (be confident when doing this..look straight into her eyes.)

OR..

if u not confident enough and thinkyoure gona die just saying that in front her face....

then There is always MYSPACE.

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hey, it works for me. lol

Answer 4

to tell u the truth i had the same problem too what you do is first get her something dosent have to be pricey something like a small teddy bear or a stuffed animal something like that then walk up to he but dont let her see it then talk to her say 'Hey who are you doing whatever she says be like ok if its good (she will most likely say good) then say lets make it a little bit better and give her the gift and then she will most likely give you a hug then say oo i was wondering Will you go out with me? or say will you do me the honer in being my girlfriend? yeh message me later and tell me how it works out

Answer 5

The only best way to ask a girl out is to be yourself.

Answer 6

First walk up to her, second ask her out for a casual date...like pizza, or burgers, or even a movie. Just say "Hey, I was wondering if you were free this weekend? Would you be interested in lunch with me at(insert resteraunt here) or going to see(insert movie here.)"

Answer 7

The best way is to write her a note i would love that if i were her i got one it was great now were goin out!!

Answer 8

just answering for reference... i need to know the answer to.. ill read back here later..
I think the most easiest way to do it would be on IM or TXT Msg
Less stress on your side, but then again there is disadvantages to doing that too, it would be easier for her to say no to you.
But if you are confident enought that she will say yes txt msg her or im her, if you cant do it face 2 face.
face to face it shows your brave

Answer 9

im a girl and the guy that asked me out just asked if i was going to the dance and if i wanted to go with him.......i said yes

Answer 10

sit next to her in class. then write her a note and say "can i ask you a question?" she'll write, sure.

then just ask. "will you go out with me?"

she'll either say yes or no