I haven't had a girlfriend in forever. I'm shy and small. I was going to college, but I dropped out because it was a small school with very few people, and no girls at all. I'm trying to transfer my credits to a 4-year university, and one of the ones I applied to accepted me and my credits. But money's a issue, so I don't know if I'm really going there.
But the longer I sit home alone, the more I wish I had a girl to talk to and go places with. And I'm developing a very bad envy/jealousy whenever I see couples out in public. The guy in the couple always seems to be tall and muscular, and that beats up my self-esteem badly, because I am short and very scrawny. I lift daily, too, so that's not the solution.
If I can afford this 4-year university, will living on campus help me? I mean, very rarely has any girl been attracted to me. I've always felt overlooked. Who's to say it'll be different at college? What can I do, besides lifting, to stand out? How can I stay confident?
2007-03-11 17:24:38 · 26 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go to college not because of the girls but for your future. beyond the physical attributes, a girl would want to have a good and steady future with her partner. make a name for yourself, it's every woman's dream to be proud of her man's achievements.
break the mold, be different...have the brain, have the future, have the girl.
2007-03-11 17:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by Fay_f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to switch your focus.
Instead of always thinking of what you don't have, think about what you do have. There are plenty of girls/women out there more comfortable with a guy closer to their petite size. Really. Develop your personality. Find something to be confident about, academics, politics or sports, or just being a fun intelligent guy to be with. For goodness sakes, don't apologize for being who you are! Just be the best you.
Don't sit at home alone! Get out there and do something! What is keeping you from just getting out at least on weekends and mixing it up with some young folks like yourself? You don't have to be part of a couple to go out and have some fun!
Of course living on campus will put you with alot more people. The main thing is to get through your education, make good friends and connections. If you happen to find a girlfriend along the way, so much the better! But you are so young! Enjoy it!
2007-03-11 17:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by Pixie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww. I wish you didn't feel so bad about yourself. Looks can be completely deceiving, those tall muscular types, may be real jerks with big inflated ego's to match! Maybe there is a dating site that has a section for women who look specifically for smaller sized guys, not all women want the huge muscle types. Personality speaks volumes. So don't be shy or insecure, just because you EXPECT to be overlooked automatically. Try to picture some well known smaller sized guys and notice what professions they choose, alot of professions can only be done by smaller men. You sound young enough that you could choose any profession you want. Remember, when there is a will , there is a way!. Succesful, positive people draw people to them.
2007-03-11 18:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For us girls there is a group that we call as "NBSB" which means " NO BOYFRIEND SINCE BIRTH".. Have you ever had a girl before? If not then you must be like me NO partner since birth that was before until I found my present beue .. Yeah I felt the same way you did before insecure about my looks and envy of people who have partners. I felt that I had to something .. I changed my appearance to get noticed.I become so desperate even by falling in love with the wrong guy. I even did online chatting and met with even wrong men. I only ended bruising and hurting. You see, don't be too hard on yourself. Don't hurry love . Enjoy being single. If you want to change the way you look do so. But don't compromise and act desperate. For sure there's a girl out there waiting for you!!
2007-03-11 17:41:05 · answer #4 · answered by bittersweetlove21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's about confidence, that's it. It's about being on your own in a full room and knowing that you're not alone.
If you were tall and muscular and had no shred of self confidence u'd be ditched in a second.
So dude, believe in what you got, be proud and be out there to live life at the fullest. In that journey you'll meet people who just might wanna take that path with you. Don't sweat it if you ain't got nobody, know yourself first if and then all will fall into place.
2007-03-11 17:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by namojaro 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can truly afford the 4 yr. college, go for it. As for your size, don't worry about it. You are who you are. Unique. One of a kind. No one else is exactly like you. The right gal will come along for you at the right time and place. Honest. As for going out to different places, yes, it is nice to have someone to go do those things with. However, please don't let that keep you from going. Also, would you be interested in going to church? If so, in your local area, or the 4 yr. college, or wherever, if you do go to church, call and ask which ones have singles groups. Take care.
2007-03-11 17:33:02 · answer #6 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, confidence in a man is the number one thing that I'm attracted to. If I sense for a second that a man is feeling sorry for himself or not confident, I am turned off. So...working on your self image would be the number one thing you can do to make yourself more attractive to women. Working out doesn't hurt but that can't be the only thing that can make you feel good about yourself. Try making a list of your positive attributes and try some affirmations. Check out the link.
2007-03-11 17:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should stop getting upset over not having a girl friend, but instead, go out and find some good friends with whom you can hang out with and enjoy single life! Dont let this issue control your life. Some things happen for a reason.If you feel your unattractive, go out and try some new clothes on( stuff that you never even thought about trying on) that make you feel and look good. Get a haircut prehaps,give your self a little mini makeover. Theres bound to be someone out there that finds your imperfections beautiful.Try online dating sites too. and last but not least, HAVE FUN (and dont listen to sad songs!)
2007-03-11 17:38:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey... I had about the same issue... Only thing is is that I wasn't going to college... Listen... Sometimes it is the girl that finds the shy ones... I know my girl did... But you also need to meet other people... And don't get jealous because of other couples.. They haven't done anything and it's not their fault... And I know this because I used to always get mad at my friends because they all had girls and I never did... So chin up and don't worry about finding a girl... They can find you...
2007-03-11 17:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by Shadow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well living on campus wouldnt hurt...other then that,get out more often with some friends,join some groups,possibly put an ad in some online personals...that may sound desperate,but hey I did it after my last split up and I'm married to the girl now.
2007-03-11 17:30:53 · answer #10 · answered by Todd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What the HELL do you want a girlfriend for??? You have NO REASON to have a girlfriend until your 25 and/or established in your career. Having a girlfriend will not help your self esteem or game. You need to help yourself first. Don't make college career choices to open up your dating life. IM me, and i'll be happy to help if you like.
2007-03-11 17:31:06 · answer #11 · answered by alberthastings3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋