Hi this may sound very stereotype,but I met this guy a year ago during an official meeting and fell in love with him. He is the man of my dreams, a kind of guy whom I always thought about and wished for ever since I started thinking about a man! He was just in my thoughts & when i saw him i knew is the one but hes already married. I know that it is not right for me to think about him since we can't be together but I can't let go. I am deeply in love with him. He once mentioned that he can't go ahead with it since his family (parents) will never approve of it and he doesnt want to cause any shame to his "family name", what ever the reason may be, I can't let go, it is very difficult for me. I really want to be with him forever. I am a very honest, dedicated and sincere person and believe in true love, which comes before physical attraction. I am sure that I love him more than anyone else he has in his life. Please suggest what I should do? The pain is very excruciating for me. I can't l
2007-03-11 17:22:20 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he would do it for you, he'll do it too you. (meaning if he leaves her for you, he'll do the same to you). Move on.
2007-03-11 17:26:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate, I had an affair with a married man to, he was the love of my life, I knew this going into it but you can't control your heart and how it feels how it loves. When she found out she gave him an ultimatum either me or his son! And he chose his son, which thats ok, but the heartbreak is unbearable, it's been almost a year now since i've seen him and the hurt is still very much there, you will never ever forget him, but sweetie there is no future with a married man, it's a hard pill to swallow. I know he still loves me, but he's stuck. I wish you all the luck in the world, i know how you feel so you have my blessing....
2007-03-11 17:52:37 · answer #2 · answered by ayleiah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I feel for you. I feel for his wife too. Apparently he has some sort of loving relationship with you, and that makes him a cheat. If he cheats on her, he would cheat on you too. Believe me. Since he is married, you need to back off and leave him alone. I know it hurts but it has to be done. He has a wife and it isn't you. Since this is a love that is so deep, you need to let go completely. Get away from him all together. Cut all ties. Have NOTHING to do with him at all. Im sorry but it's the only way. Move on.
2007-03-11 17:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by s w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may deeply love him, but someone else has already beat you to the punch. His wife feels the same way about him as you do, and even MORE cuz he's married and has children with him. Stop being selfish and find a new man who is NOT married.
2007-03-11 17:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by Hottie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you he would have left his wife. He wouldn't really let "family honor" get between him and the love of his life...if he's not leaving his wife its probably because he still loves her. Get on with your life and meet someone new. I'm sure he's not the only guy you could possibly fall in love with. In fact, you may even find someone you like even more.
2007-03-11 17:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if holding onto the hope that he will one day be with you is stopping you from meeting and being with some one who is your "perfect match" ?
It is painful but better to let go now because he has no respect for his wife by cheating on her and if he does it to her he will do it to you. You deserve to be loved fully and completely and not on a part time basis.
2007-03-11 17:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this but the man of your dream belong to someone else.. the only thing you can do is move on, i know
that it will be hard when you feel he the one,but sometime
it feel like that the world will just swallow you, but in time
you will find that the love you might have with him will
eventally go away. just take one day at time but your man
is out there.
2007-03-11 17:28:30 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you 'fell in love' with him upon first meeting him, it is a physical attraction, no matter whether you want to believe it or not. If he is married and could possibly leave his wife for you, then eventually he will leave you for another woman. It is inevitable. Please, for your own sake, MOVE ON! It will hurt for a while, but in the long run, you will be SO much better off!!!
2007-03-11 17:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is true love like you say and think it is, then it will happen. what ever you do, dont continue a relationship with him till he leaves his wife. he has made it clear that he wont or cant, but you shouldnt be his side dish if you know what i mean. if your already sleeping with him, tell him that it will happen no more until he is divorced. not seperated, but DIVORCED. men will carry on a relationship like that until they are given an ultimatum. if he truly does love you and want to be with you, then he will leave his wife. but remember, once a cheater, always a cheater or so they say.
2007-03-11 17:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by mcfly_lives 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not in love with the man of your dreams.....you are in love with another womans dream man. You better snap out of the fantasy as you are headed for nothing but disaster. Shaming his family name translates into you are not good enough for him to introduce to his family. WAKE UP!!!!
2007-03-11 17:27:18 · answer #10 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love him and never leave him. he needs you!!!! the pain is more exruciating if you turn your back on love. Marriage is logistics True love is binding not some document. Not to discredit marriage but what is marriage without true love. He didnt want to what? shame his name remind him how long life is and how much time he has left to remember you!! Good luck ...
2007-03-11 17:36:12 · answer #11 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋