i catched him looking at porn does it mean im bad in bed???
2007-03-11 17:15:40 · 7 answers · asked by i cant think of a nickname 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no it doesnt mean your bad in bed, its just like guys nature i guess
2007-03-11 17:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As has been said, it is human nature (at least for many guys because they are VERY visual). It also isn't a reflection on you, although I'm afraid of some of the types of comments you might get in response to that question. Despite both of these things however, it isn't good and it could really hurt your relationship eventually. I hope that you can talk to him about it because that would probably be far better than any other advice I or anyone else can give you. It's your relationship and this is pretty-much all between the two of you, but I hope for only the best things for both of you.
2007-03-12 00:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by KatieBee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Porn can be an addiction like anything else in this world. It is exciting and gives kind of a high when you look at it. I went through a porn addiction phase when I was younger and don't look at it very often now.
I wouldn't take it too personally. Instead I'd ask him why porn turns him on.
2007-03-12 00:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by milwaukiedave 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, let's refer to it as erotica. Porn is just a pejorative term, and what I would call the "cheaply made stuff."
Erotica has been around for thousands of years. It began as painting, sculpture and poetry, and eventually evolved into literature, photography, acting, and video.
Erotica is simply an alternative form of sexual arousal; it is harmless fantasy and nothing more.
Regarding fantasy, Helen Fisher ("The First Sex," Ballantine Books, Feb. 2000) says that 71 percent of men and 72 percent of women fantasize while having sex with a partner. Men fantasize about conquest and domination, women about submission and surrender.
Dr. Joyce Brothers says, "It might relieve some of your guilt to know that many happily married individuals who have no thought or intention of ever betraying their spouse have sexual fantasies about someone other than their spouse."
Both men and women (single and in a relationship) have shown a desire to enjoy erotica in some form.
As long as a partner is taking care of his/her obligations and responsibilities (job, family) and seeing that the other person is being fulfilled sexually, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with enjoying alternative forms of arousal.
If he is fulfilling you sexually, give him some privacy and space to indulge in a little fantasy. Your relationship is not at risk.
2007-03-12 08:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. It just means he wanted to "get off". I mean everyone looks at porn. It's human nature. Men are visual creatures and they think about sex all the time. Sometimes, you just crave it and you want to take care of it. It has nothing to do with you.
2007-03-12 00:23:46 · answer #5 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yea your nookie must be bad news...Try fellatio or something new on him...that's your only hope.............
2007-03-12 00:31:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
because they wish if that is them
2007-03-12 00:28:15 · answer #7 · answered by marvin v 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋