Can someone help me out of my depression?

Question

I've been going through it for 2-almost 3 weeks, & I'm not in my right mind. & people keep blaming ME for my problems, & thinking I'm asking for attention, when I'm not, which is bringing me into DEEPER depression.

Answer 1

I agree with melissa, plus here are my coping tips (I'm bipolar, meds only do so much for me)

If your depression seems to be more of a problem in the winter, try to get more sun. You could have seasonal affective disorder, or SAD, or your depression could have a seasonal component, meaning you can get depressed other times of the year, but you tend to have more trouble in the winter. A light box is really good if you can afford one (about $300 online, don't get it at a local store, they will charge more for a light less than 1/2 as bright). Since I will always have a mood disorder, I have put in extra windows, keep the drapes mounted so they don't cover them, make sure I spend a lot of time in southern exposure rooms, painted the walls peach and yellow, mostly. I even have a skylight, although that was here when I moved in (and I LOVE it, it helps a lot!!!!!)

Avoid caffeine like the plague. Also, some cold remedies can cause anxiety. Look for the "agitation in children" warning on the box. Adults can get problems too.

Avoid negative people. Don't make things worse by trying to convince them about your problems, seek out the supportive ones.

Try meditation tapes like progressive muscle relaxation or guided imagery. They may seem silly at first, but they work!! They help reduce stress, which makes depression worse. Nature sounds CD's are good too. Avoid depressing music, it's so easy to listen to it when we're down.

Go out with friends, and if you don't have any, find a club to join and MAKE yourself go until you actually look forward to it. Isolation makes depression worse. A little laughter helps a lot, at least it is a break. Comedy movies or joke books are pretty helpful too.

Exercise at least 1/2 hour a day, and anytime you feel really depressed. Exercise is a great mood stabilizer and cuts down on stress a lot.

Put a lot of colorful things around the house, happy type things, and keep the blinds open and let the sun in. Get yourself some flowers. Put on some pretty clothes. Make a list of things that make you happy. Here's some things on my list: A basket full of fluffy kittens, bread fresh from the oven, Fireworks popping on a warm summer evening, The first fireflies of the season, the scent of Jergen's cherry almond lotion, The crisp sound of a saltine cracker breaking, fresh sheets on the bed, etc. Use all your senses and read that list when you are breaking down.

Work on time management if being overwhelmed and late for things and too much to do is getting to you. Cut back on other responsibilities temporarily so you can spend more restorative time with friends and family.

You got a husband/boyfriend? Extra physical touch is very helpful. Most people in the US or UK are touch deprived, so hold hands more, hug more, give shoulder rubs, etc. A pet is good to cuddle with, too, if your home situation allows you to get one. (I'm an animal lover, don't get one if you can't commit to it for 15 years)


Good luck!! YOu probably will want to see a therapist or doctor, but maybe some of these tips will help in the meantime.

Answer 2

I do truly understand what you are going through, Depression is real and NO it is not your fault. You along with millions of people world-wide suffer this nasty affliction....
For some reason people that have depression dont produce enough serotonin, a chemical that is needed for the brain to function properly. Exercise makes your body produce this chemical that makes you feel good, and dont be too eager to take anti-depressants as some of them have very bad side effects. If your friends are very negative and not supportive and understanding, maybe you should think about trying out a new hobby and meeting new people. Dont listen to what other people say, the way you feel is real and they dont understand because they havent been there. Go out more and dont lock yourself away, whatever you do just believe in you. Good Luck and God Bless...

Answer 3

I read many years ago (forgive me, I cannot attribute to whom) that the most practical and immediate help is to spend two hours per day in the sunlight, summer or winter, doing physical work. This helps greatly. Another tactic is to help someone, perhaps contribute to a "save a child" kind of organization, or to alleviate some sick person's unhappiness. Try this before going the chemical route with doctors. The meds are unpleasant and affect you in other ways. Above all, be involved with others and not absorbed in self. Good luck, I've been there for many years. Attitude is everything. Change it!

Answer 4

any sort of depression can be tide over by faith in GOD and sincere prayer.

Your prayer is from your heart. Further You must have to understood the fact that God is present in our heart. This can be realised in meditation. Further we are the creation of our own destiny. As per Hindu sacred religion, we carry all good and bad deeds life after life. There is no end unless we pray for unification of self with the divineliness.
Hence there is always a possible way to complete mergence with God in this life by a simple and wonderful meditation

Answer 5

I've struggled with depression throughout my adult life and know that it's not something that you can just snap out of. I've had people tell me that it's not that hard to be happy so I just just look on the bright side. It's really hard to feel like no one understands us. However, I think you should make an appointment with your family doctor. He can prescribe something or refer you on to a counsler. You may just need to talk with someone who will listen instead of judging.

Good luck with this. I hope you feel better soon.

Answer 6

I'm in the same boat hun. Talk to someone, talk to me if you have to. Someone whos not biased and will do their best to help you out.

Try working out a little, doing an aciticity that will help, maybe even try to write a diary.

See a doctor, an unbiased one, they can give you anti-depressants and they can recomment a therapist to help you. Talking helps, alot.