Does he still love me?

Question

He broke up with me among other reasons because of the distance; I'm in New York; he's in Tokyo. We started dating in Tokyo, then I had to move to NY last Sep and we dated long dist. The break up was not mutual, but it was open ended, in that he did not completely rule out the possibility of getting back together once I moved back to Tokyo. I'm moving back to Tokyo to start work there in April; he doesn't know that yet. I should add that another major reason for breaking up was that he did not feel good enough for me due to his educational background, etc, a point of great frustration for me because I don't share in his opinion. He said he could not marry me because he could not make me happy, because he does not and could not have a proper, decent job. I wouldn't mind providing for him, and letting him do what he likes, but he doesn't like such a situation. Now he is being sincere, and I think this makes him even more difficult to read. When we were breaking up, he said his feelings

for me fundamentally have not changed; if he didn't love me he would continue dating me, do I understand? (This kind of consideration for the other person is apparently very much a Japanese style of thought). But then he later said there is no point dating for the reasons he gave (long distance - we cannot see each other; and he can't marry me because he can't get a proper job) and when i asked "then why did you date me to begin with?" he said "my feelings have cooled now and I love you less than in the beginning." He wanted to be friends and as friends, he would email me at the same rate, he said, and I can call him on the phone, we can meet in Tokyo "as friends". But since the break up a few weeks ago he is responding quicker to my emails, initiating conversations, and he writes me: "[my name], hello. [my name], fundamentally there is no problem. [my name], by the way now are you coming to Japan in April?" I am wondering why he wants to know whether I'm coming back to Japan and why

is he talking to me more than when we were dating? When I asked him, he said there is no one new. The last few emails I sent him: "I am going to Japan in mid-April. Dave is coming to visit me from April 10th to the 13th so it will be after that. So it will be in the middle of next month [that we see each other], won't it! I will arrive at Tokyo Narita [airport] on April Xth. Can I see you that week?" He replied: "[my name], good evening. [my name], I think/I am thinking it will be good if/I hope that we can see each other that week. That and [my name], why don't you try telling Dave you love him/asking Dave out." Dave is my best friend and confidante in love and all matters, and my ex knows this, and thinks highly of Dave. Five months ago in Tokyo my ex wrote me: "[my name], for the first time in my life I am seriously hoping and praying for the happiness of someone other than myself. You are after all extremely pretty and lovely. [my name], I honestly seriously love you so much.

[my name], good night (with a throbbing heart mark)." Does he still love me?

Answer 1

To answer the basic question...YES-undeniably, he loves you soo much that he just wants to see you happy. However, he is unsure about how much he means to you and how much he affects your life...If you want him back, give him that reassurance, don't allow him to continue to feel slightly inadequate. You obviously love him and want him, back so go get your man. You guys are close (as in emotionally tied), you should be able to be open with each other without feeling like you may be jeopardizing your current relationship. He wants to be an adequate part of your life, but feels that he can't even meet up to his own standards of whats good enough for you...Reassure him, he truly loves you, and can't wait to se you...best wishes

Answer 2

Even he doesn´t know the answer. I think about this answer he is the only person in the world that knows the answer. I recommend you to make him this question instead asking to the world. People can make many things that make 1 to think that they love 1 so the best way is to ask "Mr So, Do you still love me or you just want we be good friends? I am suffering very much because of this situation. I still love you so much."

Answer 3

Yes

Answer 4

Well I'm sorry and I know how it is trust me ... But like they say your first true love never dies in your heart but in your head it will fade away ... goodluck and I was wondering if you can support my web page www.freewebs.com/saynotodrugs07
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Answer 5

wow thats a lot. well its sorta hard to tell but i think you should try going for him. If it doesnt work out, tell him he hurt you and then stock up on ice cream. good luck

Answer 6

both of you still truly love each other!
give yourselves time to get back together again..don't rush..
good luck!

Answer 7

NO.
MOVE BACK. MAKE HIM WAIT TO SEE YOU.
DO NOT LET SOMEONE WHO HURT YOU SO BADLY BE ABLE TO COME BACK INTO YOUR LIFE / HEART WITHOUT ANY HARDSHIP ON HIS PART, OR IT MAY BECOME A ROUTINE. LISTEN TO EVERYTHING, LEAP AT NOTHING.

Answer 8

Of course he still loves you... I bet he'll get back with you soon ;)