i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and want to break up with him. butttt, i can't. He's too into me and i love him, but not IN love, so i don't want to hurt his feelings.
i don't want to cheat on him, but i can't think of anything but for him to just simply dislike me for him to break up with me!
is there any other solutions other than telling him how i really feel?
2007-03-11 17:03:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the best thing is honestly if you are not happy with the
realtionship then it time to let him know how you feel. the
longer you allow this to happen the harder it will be. he
feeling are going to be hurt any way you do this but. honestly
is the best policy.,
2007-03-11 17:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know from experience that prolonging this will make matters much worse.If you cheat on him and he finds out,that will not only hurt him even worse but it could destroy any friendship you might be able to salvage.There are alot of different factors that could change my opinion;is there another guy involved?If not,than maybe you need to spend more time thinking of new ways to fall in love instead of worrying about how you can dump him.If you care enough about how he feels if you were to dump him,than maybe you care more about him than you think.Maybe there are other things pulling you away from how you really feel.I dont know,but whatever decision you make be HONEST!Dont do anything to make him dislike you,its definately not fair to make him think that you are the innocent one.And make him give up on someone he loves dearly.Cherish what you have right now,be honest and things will work out.Alot better than lying or deceiving.No matter what you do,please dont cheat,it will only make you feel worse and its hard telling what it could do to him.
2007-03-12 00:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by Bill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him or like him or care for him in any shape form or fashion, you will just TELL him. I know its hard, but cheating on someone is low. All the years and times spent together with anybody, all the good and bad times, nobody deserves to be cheated on just to break up. I know you came to this site for advice, but put yourself into his shoes, if you were head over heals for some guy and he cheated on you to break up with you, how would you feel? Not trying to be mean by saying that, but I know from past experiences, it is best to break up as friends even though it will be hard, but its best to break up as friends and be up front with the other person. Trust me you never know when you might need that person in the future, as a reference, a quick bite to eat, chat on the phone, car break down, or anything. Don't leave the relationship with a bad taste in each others mouth. It will be hard for him, and you never know, it might be hard for you once you finally realize he is actually gone and not your BF.
2007-03-12 00:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by Marcus M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The longer it takes the harder it gets. So just tell him how you feel. Set up a date or something and then while you guys are having fun. Look for a girl that will distract him. Ask him if he likes the girl. Then after, tell him that you dont want to go out with him anymore and all that stuff.
2007-03-12 00:14:50 · answer #4 · answered by 4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two ways to break up with a guy. The cowardly way and the brave bitchy way. Stick with the brave bitchy way than being a cowardly lion. If you don't want to be with him anymore, then tell him. There is no piont in having a relationship that is a lie. It will make things worse if you lie to him about how you feel about him, more importantly your lying to yourself. Don't you want to meet that sexy delicious man that is more compatable for you? (*Yummy Justin Timberlake look-a-like*)
2007-03-12 00:16:26 · answer #5 · answered by asian_cutie_sd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So are you going to marry this guy because you cant break up with him? Be real sweetheart, he'll grow up and get over it. Not that you should be mean, but it is far more hurtfull to lead him on, then it is to tell him to the truth. "Making" him break up with you is childish (though I am guessing you are quite close to a child) and honesty is the best policy.
2007-03-12 00:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont cheat on him that would hurt him more than breaking up with him. =// ok so you just need to tell him how you feel and dont keep it inside. tell him how you really feel and he will understand.
2007-03-12 00:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by danny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your pregnant with his twins ..works for
my couzin !!
so far she had fake twins 23 times ..guys gets this freak look on their face and breaks up with her so fast she is relieved.
2007-03-12 00:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by Keera 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋