Should i call My ex girlfriend after 3 years?

Question

We were together off and on for 5 years, i really loved her but her lifestyle i couldnt stand, she was always out, she always had to talk to all the guys in the club etc, and she had very foul language. I devolepted a drinking habbit, therefore we were always mad at eachother. she had her view of things, and i had mine.I desided to break up with her because all we did was argure, and my drinking didnt make anything better! Now Its been 3 years we havent talked since and now I miss her. Should I try calling her?

Answer 1

* If you want to. But remember those issues you had between you will most likely still come up. Do you really want to put yourself through that again? After all they were pretty serious problems in a 5 year relationship. Your call... Good luck.

Answer 2

Are you just lonely or is it truly her you miss? Has she changed and no longer stays out with friends? If you have kicked the drinking habit is it worth it to you that you may be placing yourself in the same position? Call her if you must and see if she has changed ,but why not find someone who doesn't use foul language and has a meeker disposition? Good luck in whatever you decide.

Answer 3

An ex is an ex for a reason and all those reasons you just gave there is no way i'd set myself up for more of it. If in 5 years you couldnt work things out i'd seriously doubt you ever will. You probably only are thinking of her coz your lonely

Answer 4

depends on how things ended, how was the last conversation you had with her?

I suggest an e-mail first to test the waters, you don't know if she even wants to hear from you. Or mention to a mutual friend that you want to see or talk to her and it'll get back to her. Calling her would catch her off guard and may prompt her to do something that she probably wouldn't want to do.

Answer 5

Well it depends. It seemed like you were NOT a good match. But you have waited a long time. This girl though seems like she can hold a grudge for a long time, so think about it. What about this girl makes you love her? I think you should just wait until the perfect girl comes along. Good luck

Answer 6

No, dont call her!
What you miss is the sex really,or having a girlfriend, and once you have the tearful reunion,all the old problems will return.!
Take this from someone who did just that!

Answer 7

that is called emotional/psychological cheating, and definite it particularly is a sort of cheating. it may be diverse IF he grew to become into in basic terms speaking to his ex as in user-friendly terms a chum, yet he's making sexually-orientated comments to her and to who-knows-how-many different ladies. And if he knows it hurts you and he keeps doing it besides, this is abusive to boot. you'll be able to desire to ditch this bum!

Answer 8

I wouldn't recommend it. You're probably remembering the "good ol' days" with her.....but, from your description, it sounds like those days weren't so good. You can remember the good times with her, but in three years time both of you have grown (I hope) and have had new life experiences. I wouldn't recommend trying to go back in time.

Answer 9

you should, just say like: hey! hows it goin?/hows life?/is everything alright?/i missed you?/(and if u do want to get back to gether u should say this)look, its been awhile and i am sorry, i noticed that without you my life is in pain and so on....../if she has gotten a new man or married, just act friendly like a little reunion on the phone, but dont tell her how you feel because she will despise you more.

Answer 10

from what u have written i didnt seem like u had alot in common. its been three years, why not move on? but if u still have feelings for her why not give it a chance, u never know it might work out this time.