ok...i really don't know what to do...i really liked this one girl...and then i started liking this other one too...and i couldnt help it cause they're both really really cool and i have a lot in common with both of them...but one of em i cant ask out right now because she had a bad break-up a few weeks ago and isnt over her ex yet...i've basically been there for her though for the past 2 weeks to cheer her up everytime shes down cuz of it...and stuff like that...and as for the other girl, she claims to only like me as a friend. but she hasnt told me this to my face, only to other people, and she shows A LOT of signs that she likes me back...so i wrote her a letter explaining a lot of things and telling her how i felt, and she hasnt replied to me yet, but i'm afraid to ask her about it...so what do i do? i've come to a conclusion to just wait for both of them...and i'm not in any hurry for anything...but i'm getting really tired of waiting...is there anything i can do about this?
2007-03-11 16:35:48 · 16 answers · asked by heckyealevel1foreverlol 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may be tired of waiting but you have no choice. Some things cannot be rushed.
You will have an even bigger problem if they both decide they want you.
2007-03-11 16:40:29 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one girl is on the rebound, I would keep being her friend and maybe later on down the road something might develop and if it does, go for it. Meantime, the girl who likes you as a friend probably means it even though her signs says she likes you. You did the right thing in telling her how you felt. Just wait and see what happens with her in the next couple days and if she says nothing,,,, she's just a friend, and look else where.
2007-03-11 23:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by landsharks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not dumb. It's how you feel. Okay, the recently broken-up one...just be there like youre doing now. And the one you wrote the letter to...she probably is not sure about the letter but if she is in the "just friends" mode then she would have told you when she read your letter.
2007-03-11 23:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by psst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that for the girl you wrote a letter to, you should bring it up to her the second time you see her. the reason i say the second time is because the first time she might still be thinking about it or seeing you will stimulate her brain thoughts. for the girl who isn't over her ex yet i think you should tell her you like her, too. who knows, maybe she secretly likes you too and is using her ex as an excuse to hang out with you. if you wait for them, they might take it as you not liking them so they might get discouraged. good luck and go with your heart.
Best Wishes
*~Brooke Zeo
2007-03-11 23:42:31 · answer #4 · answered by Brooke Zeo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you have not known them for a long time. So get to know them better during your waiting period. Write down the positive and negative aspects of these girls. And based on these aspects choose one girl. Life ain't goin to be easy with 2 girls. And of course she has to like you too. Best bet would be to let your feeling be known to them.
And don't forget, only one girl and aim for a long relationship.
I am from India and you seem to be someone from USA or Europe. So naturally our way of thinking would be at crossroads.
2007-03-11 23:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by sting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the girl you gave the letter to how you really feel and see what she says. If she just wants to be friends then ask the other out.
2007-03-11 23:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by Nipper53 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there friends for now. Just because someone is cool doesn't mean it has to be a partnership. It could be that you guys are just cool friends. One of them has already told you that. Don't push her-away. Now, for the one who just lost someone, you just like the feeling of being needed. It will pass. Don't let yourself be her rebound or it will not last.
2007-03-12 00:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mir3lla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it looks like u know what u are doing so just keep your head up high the girl that got in to a break up is the one u should go for the other sounds like a snob just comfert the girl with the break up how knowes u might get the girl
2007-03-11 23:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by rebeca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not date someone who just got out of a relationship that makes things too complicated. and the other one... even if she does have feelings for you if she is not addmitting it to other people and saying that she only likes you as a friend and she hasnt responded to your letter then forget about her. i think you should just find somone else. dont wait for anyone
2007-03-11 23:43:32 · answer #9 · answered by ana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're right, you'll have to wait. i would go for the one that had the break up. she will realize how good of you it was to be there for her. unless she has specifically said, no more guys for a while... you can start revealing your feelings to her! make it seem more like dates when you spend time with her and such... she'll come around a lot quicker that way.
2007-03-11 23:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋