My cousin and I were practically raised as brothers. We are that close. My cousin is dating a girl and is planning to ask her to marry him. The other day I was over at her house to see her parents on business. When I arrived, the parents weren't home just the daughter. She asked me in and then headed to the bathroom. When she came out she was naked and asked if I thought she was pretty and wanted me to shower with her. I dismissed myself and left. Should I tell my cousin and how? I know it will hurt him, but, if he gets hurt after the wedding its just as bad. What if He doesn't believe me.
2007-03-11 16:26:06 · 14 answers · asked by rabbitmedic 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you might start the conversation by asking him how much he trusts her. this is a tough situation. you have to tell him or stay out of it and hope he never finds out that you kept it from him. whichever you chose...good luck
2007-03-11 16:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by pamcake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always a chance that he won't believe you and may think you are trying to sabotage his relationship. If he stays with the girl and marries her anyway you can be sure she'll hate you and that will put a big rift between the two of you.
The right thing to do would be to tell him exactly what happened and advise him to do what he wishes with the information - don't push any ideas or anything. Just bear in mind that it could go bad, and even though you did the right thing you may end up in the doghouse.
2007-03-11 17:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him, you will be saving him from 18 years of alimony payments, once a w hore always a w hore. but depending on munch in love he is with this girl be prepared for him not to believe you, and he may not even talk to you for awhile, but in the end he will find out the truth about her, I would want someone to say something to me if I were about to marry a girl going around offering her self up to any stranger that comes to the house, what if you weren't his cousin, and she had sex with some guy and ended up giving him an STD or worse, Tell Him!!
2007-03-11 17:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sir Hard & Thick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, i really think u should tell your cousin. If u truley luv(family luv) him u wouldn't want see him with a women who will eventionally cheat on him yet keep making a move on u. It could also get u deep S H I T.One day u could accidently get caught with her and your cousin walks in,and that wouldnt be good. I think u should tell him y the girl is not there and u are alone.Well that wat i would want my cousin to do.
P.S-and im a female so take it from me........if she really likes u she'll keep doing this tell u give in. BELIEVE ME!!!!!!!
2007-03-11 16:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by MIZZ_MICKEY 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him .If he does not believe you . Have him set it up were she is alone in the house. The two of you go over,you go in , and he stay out side. Then in a little while have him come in , with any luck she will be caught . Good Luck
2007-03-11 18:53:33 · answer #5 · answered by Kit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably are'nt the first, or the last. I would tell him, before he makes an obvious mistake. If he chooses not to believe you, at least you tried, and I'm sure he will eventually find out firsthand, that you were telling the truth.
2007-03-11 16:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by chester 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel you should tell your cousin, because apparently she is not ready to be married. If he doesn't believe you then that's his problem. You were smart to leave, and not hurt your cousin. IF your cousin doesn't believe then get both of them together and tell again in front of her and tell him to see her reaction.
good luck, God bless!
2007-03-11 16:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is going to deny it.
You might as well tell him because if you dont you will still lose him because she knows you know and is probably already poisoning his mind against you. She is going to make up some story about you. Be prepared for that.
If he turns against you just give it time, she cant hide her true colors from him forever.
2007-03-11 16:37:23 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell him before he marries this Slag and she ends up cheating on him in the long run. Save him from a life of divorce and misery.. You would be doing him justice by telling him the truth....
2007-03-11 16:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i was told by a shrink hat somoes not telling is a good thing. but follow your heart. either way your cousin is going to love you and hate you at the same time.
2007-03-11 16:30:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋