i have a major crush on dis guy and he knows i like him,i told him.but he is already in a relationship.bt he says that he's not happy?they never spend time with each other or anything?what do i say or do to let him know that im the perfect gurl for him???
2007-03-11 16:24:35 · 26 answers · asked by **so lost** 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ummmmmmmm.... YOU DONT
2007-03-11 16:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by superstar77 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Define "In a relationship" ... call me old fashioned but I see a huge difference between married and just dating someone. If he is serious with this woman (married, enganged, live-in, etc) my advice is let him know how you feel, but DO NOT pursue anything with him until he is out of the relationship-- completely. This is for your sake as much as his. A lot of men will offer flattery, gifts, and a sense of love and security to another woman but when it's all said and done would never and could never leave their current partner. They basically use you to fill whateve holes are currently in their own relationship. Don't let that happen to you!
2007-03-11 23:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by Maverick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to beware. The fact that he does not make a move means that he is not the type of guy who cheats. Regardless of what you know about his relationship, do not interfere. If his relationship fails, let it be because of any reason, as long as you aren't it. If you manage to get him to notice you, and he ends up breaking up with his girl because of you, then you screwed up. You never want to be the other woman, even for a short while. Be patient, if he likes you,and he ends up being available, you want him to respect you. Guys honestly don't respect girls who are willing to help them cheat on their mates. If it is meant to be, then it will happen, if not, then NOT!!
2007-03-11 23:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by marcio c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I doubt you are the perfect girl for him. It sounds like you have little self-respect for yourself. Why not clean up your act and go for a single guy. How would you feel if some gal moved in on your guy if you were going through a time of disconnection? Your lack of maturity is showing loud and clear. Not every boy is a man ... I think you have your wires crossed.
2007-03-11 23:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by daffodil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First...the thing that puzzles me the most is if he's so unhappy in his relationship, why is he still with her?
If he likes you back, he would immediately dump his girlfriend, and try making smooth moves on you. Is he doing that?
Another thing; he already knows that you know...now it's up to you to go and make a move to see his reaction. Go up to him, give him your number, be flirty, and just suggest hanging out sometime AS FRIENDS and see what he says. If he acts retarded or dumbstruck, leave him alone. He's a player.
Also, if he's nice and is enthusiastic about the whole ordeal, try avoiding his girlfriend. You don't want a girlfight over a guy.
2007-03-11 23:28:54 · answer #5 · answered by forest_without_sounds 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leave him alone. You don't know the entire story (just his side) and interfering in someone else's relationship is not appropriate, ever.
If he is not happy then he needs to be a man and end the relationship on his own, without your help.
If he wants you, he'll come to you after he leaves her.
Just remember ~ Once a dog, always a dog.
2007-03-11 23:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by d f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry...but you don't! Let him be in his relationship until he decides he in unhappy enough to get out of it...
You don't want to be the cause of breaking them up because then he might resent you for it later...
Just become his friend...It sounds like this relationship is doomed to fail anyway, and then when it fails on its own, you'll be there as his friend and from there you both can decide if you want to pursue more than just a friendship.
2007-03-11 23:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by JesJ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Umm, keep your distance. Don't take him from another girl. What goes around comes around. If he's not that happy you need to let him leave on his own. Then you can make a move. He already knows you like him anyway.
2007-03-11 23:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by MJ 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
1. he's ina relationship leave him alone
2. if he wasn't happy why hasn't he ended things with her?
3. he's playing games with you.
4. find someone that isn't in a relationship.
5. how would you feel if you were in a relationship and some other chick decided that she wanted your man and made a move?
think about that
2007-03-11 23:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Chances are, he has already noticed you because you say that you know that he's unhappy. Be supportive, but don't interfere, unless you want to be labeled a boyfriend stealer and the "un-perfect" girl for him.
2007-03-11 23:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He needs to make the decision to leave her on his own. If he thinks that you have a habit of luring guys away from their girls, chances are he will never trust you enough to be in a relationship w/ u
2007-03-11 23:29:09 · answer #11 · answered by Daisy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋