ok there is this guy whom is friends with my brother so i see him every weekend but anyways we got drunk one night and had sex but it didn't work out for him so well. and we haven't talked since but on the phone once and he said he can do better than that he was just having problems that night. and i really go to know him and i have developed feelings for him but we don't talk in person he just don't talk to me nor make eye contact.. could it be that he is embarassed by what happened that night?? could he ever date me since that happened or would it be hard on him!! cause i really think that i am falling for him badly. what do i do??
2007-03-11 16:17:40 · 8 answers · asked by Amanda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
try to talk to him and give a second chance if you like him tell him and tell him his performance is only a small factor in your relationship
2007-03-11 16:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by bell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright! That's enough! It can be the other way around too! However, I may be able to speculate and give you an assessment of this situation from a Psychological perspective regarding some common differences between between men and women in certain situations like this. Men have a natural physical sex drive; whereas, women will have sex in certain situations because they think a guy is really interested in them- what I like to call a "feelings and connections" emotional drive. His natural sex drive could have taken over this night while you thought that he was really interested in you. This is quite common. He may still like you (like you mention and may be embarrassed). However, it does sound like he is making excuses to avoid you so the generalization above seems more likely. If he does not show signs of gaining interest in you again or asking you out, you may have to forget about him and move on.
2007-03-11 23:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your brother's friend. He's probably trying to keep it cool that you two did the nasty. I mean, is your brother the type to knock his skull off if he found out the two of you had sex?! He's probably really embarrassed. He "couldn't perform" i.e whiskey dick, talk about having a complex. That's not anything to be proud of. Did you ask him what was up? If he's giving you the cold shoulder, chances are good that he isn't working up the nerve to ask you out. Move on, chalk it up as getting drunk and not using your best judgment.
2007-03-11 23:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by yp_mike_saint_paul_121 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually when drunk either a girl or guy can't perform.thats a fact.so tell him that you are not bothered about the past and you are looking forward for the next date.that will give him confidence i hope.
2007-03-11 23:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by alec. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he's embarassed by the situation. If you let him know that it has no reflection on how you feel about him, he may lighten up.
2007-03-11 23:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by Moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eithe you like him and the sex or you really have fellings for him. just talk to him and work things out with him in person. it should work out.
2007-03-11 23:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by Blaze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably is embarrassed. call him see where he stands suggest you guys going out for a bite to eat or coffee. see where things go.
2007-03-11 23:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be embarressed or did something he regrets doing under the influence.
2007-03-11 23:21:15 · answer #8 · answered by Catman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋