I'm 20 years old.. If i can remember i never was as shy as a kid as i am now. every time i'm around someone new i just feel nervous and wont hardly speak unless i'm spoken to. i just stand there with my hands in my pockets. I try not to be so shy but it just happens somehow and i cant really seem to shake it. I really hate this. this has aslo cost me a few relationships, actually all of them.. I really hate being like this. The girl always ends up just only wanting to be friends after a few weeks of dating. I feel its ruining my future with a girl. If anyone knows how i can overcome this i would greatly appreciate any info. If you need info let me know.
2007-03-11 16:02:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a little shy is actually really cute. but if it's affecting your relationship or social life, you may wanna do something about it. first, practice talking to the mirror and think of things you can say to the person you will meet. plan a list of topics to talk about and maybe just tell your new friends upfront that you're just a very shy guy and excuse yourself by joking like " so if i don't have a big response to your joke, don't get me wrong..." and smile or something like that. sometimes by pointing out your weakness, it makes you feel easier and makes people understand you more and are more comfortable with you cause they already know one thing about you. good luck!
2007-03-11 16:09:25 · answer #1 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 20:55:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes hard work and constant practice. try the things you dread the most. U can actually overcome your shyness by constant interaction with people.
I know what it feels like, cos i was once like that. Shyness comes as a result of inferiority complex, try to see urself as not being different from the way every other person sees himself/herself. And have this at the back of ur mind:No one is perfect, they aren't better than you are.
2007-03-11 16:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by William O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something that you find really comfortable to say. That you are sure won't make you look like a fool, etc.
That way, you'll initially be received well, and even if the rest of the conversation doesn't go great, you will have said something because you were confident enough with your original words, knowing they were infallible.
2007-03-11 16:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by I am God 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got rid of mine when I went to college. I just forced myself, I went out when people invited me to parties etc. I had a talking strategy too...I know it sounds kind of lame, but it worked. I was never popular or had a lot of friends in grammar and high school, but in college, I met a lot of awesome people and made a ton for good friends. It definitely made a more bold (forward) person when it came to dating too. If you aren't sure what to talk about, ask the person you're with questions. And follow up questions, people like to talk about themselves, if you freeze up when asked questions, try to elaborate.
FOR EXAMPLE:
If someone asks you where you live, don't just say in this neighborhood. Try I live in this great apartment near here. It has the best view of ____.
OR
If you ask someone a question and they give you a short answer, probe and ask another question. Say you ask me where I live and I say on campus. follow up with Do you live in Ellis hall? or In the dorms? how is that and go onto say whether or not you ever lived in dorms...blah, blah.
I know my examples are lame, but they are just examples. Have your friends help you out of your shell. Go out with large groups of people, join a club, take a (fun) class if you are no longer in college. I used to be VERY shy...now, I'm NOT..at all. Hope I helped...even if just a bit. =) GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-11 16:21:59 · answer #5 · answered by morebidd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww man i can help u i had the same problem last year what u do is u get a big mirror put a song on that u like and sing it in front of urself if u can be expressive and even dance while watching urself be so stupid with out stopping and thinking what a dumb *** then ur cured its harder then it sounds lol try it
2007-03-11 16:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by mxbadboy89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same I grew into it as I was always quite outgoing as a teen ager then grew out of it again later only time will make it work for you...
2007-03-11 16:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
someday you find a girl who likes you for your shyness and appreciates your modesty.
ya, i don't know what i'm talking about either.
got to a few clubs
get some philanthropy
and in one year...drink til your heart's content
2007-03-11 16:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Rayyhol♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dale Carnegie classes they help build up your lack of self confidence
2007-03-11 16:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say hello to every one you see for 1 day!!
2007-03-11 16:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by jh h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋