I'm sorry for talkaing about this so much but it has been a main concern and i want as many answers as possible I teach religion get great marks do sports play the flute and take dance classes My mom told me i should do all of this and even though I'm often stressed and overwhelmed I suck it up But she still yells at me at not being good enough or I could do more/better My room isn't always perfect but I'm lucky to get 7 hours of sleep I do my own laundry make my own meals and stay out of her way She still complains and always has to fight I ALSO CARE FOR HER PETS becuase I know she wont care for them and i love them a lot. My dad is a much better parent. He'll help me when I need a hand or maybe wash a school shirt for me once in a while or help me with a problem in math that I don't understand He's much nicer and easier to tlakl to. I'd rather listen to him even if he had the same rules just becuase he doesnt scold me for not doing better when I try my best what do you guys think???
2007-03-11 16:00:14 · 14 answers · asked by Christie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You KNOW you are a great person, very responsible, and obviously very patient to put up with a situation like that. Probably, your mom has issues with her own self esteem, or maybe she's afraid how she'll be perceived as a mother. Regardless, these are HER problems, and you will drive yourself crazy trying to please her. Take time to enjoy your young life, and stick close to your dad, as he seems to understand you and make you feel good about yourself. Talke care of yourself, because you are more than worth it.
2007-03-11 16:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by Moon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very good girl, but a girl that is missing her mom and wishing you had your mother's approval instead of her constant judgment. Maybe your mom is being hard on you because she wants you to turn out well and have a better upbringing than she did. We mothers always want our daughters to have all the things we didn't have, but unfortunately we sometimes get very caught up in making sure you are given sorts of opportunities that can keep you very busy and cause you stress. What you really need is your mother's time and love and that's what you may need to remind your mother of. Talk to her and tell her you need to spend more time with her instead of all your time doing activities. If you take away any advice at all from this question, it is to TALK to your mother. Communication is the key to your happiness! Good luck honey.
2007-03-12 02:18:23 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just realized I was doing this to my daughter. I was trying so hard to encourage her and praise her when she did things good and when she didn't do things the best she could I would get on her about it and one night she said, "I'm trying to be perfect for you mommy but it's just hard sometimes" and it was at that moment I realized that I wasn't making her feel good about herself, I was making her feel like she wasn't good enough. Let your mom know how it makes you feel, I'm sure she doesn't see it the way you do. Every parent wants their child to succeed and be accepted and smart, sometimes us moms don't realize how it's really effecting you. Please just have a heart to heart, no yelling or fighting, just sit down and spill your little heart out. Moving away will only crush your mom and she may never understand why. You could work at fixing the problem before you abandon ship.
2007-03-12 00:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by Belle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that your mom takes you for granted alot. Sometimes my mom is the same exact way as you describe yours. I do alot of things for her but it seems she just doesn't understand that I could be doing alot of other things instead of wasting my time helping her. I wish that she was the kind of person that would appreciate any little thing that would do for her, I know by what your saying that you feel the same way too. Your dad seems very helpful and I'm sure he cares alot about you by what you say he does for you. My dad doesn't even wash the dishes, he leaves me to do them. Well anyways GOOD LUCK with your mom problem.
2007-03-11 23:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by ilk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your Ol ma a break! She just wants to see you succeed in the real world...before your in it yourself and truly on your own! You'll miss her when its time to leave the nest...enjoy the free ride for as long as it last! Because the world is a tough place and she is just trying to prepare you for it! Remember...she does love you or she wouldn't push! Just think of what a lazy bum you would be without this great woman giving you wake-up call now and then!
2007-03-11 23:09:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your being honest then I'd say your mother is too critical and expecting too much of you.
My advice to you is if you want to stop doing one of those activities go ahead and stop. Since she's going to be critical of you anyway why bother worrying about what she will say. I think you need a little more sleep just because of all the stress.
If she wants to fight with you, dont let her suck you into it, just walk away.
2007-03-11 23:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to tell because bob knows you are obviously biased towards your mother being a bad parent and you being innocent child. based on your story it makes it sound like your mother is being unfair. however there are a couple things, you seem like a teenager and teenagers are full of hormones and feelings and **** specially girls, plus this is being told from your point of view and not a more general onlookers view.
to get a more unbiased, full story
you would need to list everything bad about you
everything good about your mother
and then tell your story.
2007-03-14 02:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom is trying to live vicariouly through you. It's sad. You are you. I think your mom is being unfair. Too many parents today put too much pressure on their kids. Just trying to keep up with their friends' kids.
2007-03-12 00:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by Alayna A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom sounds unfair
2007-03-11 23:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't say your a bad kid .if you say your mother truley acts this way twords you if you feel she gives the feeling about not being good enough maybe it's not really you that is not good enough sit and have a talk with your mother ask her how she feels let open up to you so you can she if it is you that is not good enough for your mother or if it is somthing else that angers her to which she decides to vent it on you
2007-03-11 23:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by stephanie o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋