Would you keep the baby?

Question

Let say: you were in your 30's no children, divorced...
First time in your life you get pregnant by someone you really like... but he is married/separated with kids... You know you would have to raise the kid on your own...(ok except child alimony) but just for the baby and you ... would you keep it...
if you had this feeling like this is your chance to have a baby. now or never?

Answer 1

I would keep the baby!! My daughter is the best thing that has ever happened to me in my life. I'm 34 and my daughter is 11 I have been divorced for 4 years. I call my daughter every night and have her every weekend and I am so glad I have her in my life even though I wish the circumstances were different I make the best of it she is worth it!!!

Answer 2

I Would Definitely Have The Baby. Why Would You Get An Abortion, The Baby Is Innocent And You Never Know It Could Be The Most Fulfilling And Exciting Time In Your Life. A Lot Of Single Woman Raise A Child On Their Own, So? The Children Come Out Fine, I Know Way Too Many Of Them To Not Know. Keep The Baby!

Answer 3

Got caught, did you? KEEP IT! Yes, I would keep the baby. Like you said, it is now or never. Do you seriously realize that you may never have another chance at having a baby? This alone is too unimaginable.

I say this not so much because of your marital status. But, because there are so many things, such as, a hysterectomy that can affect a woman and rob her of her dream and chance of ever birthing children.

The father of the baby did not go into this relationship blindly. He knew what the consequences would be, as well as, you did. To use an old cliche, he danced to the music and it is now time for him to pay the piper! Don't let him off of the hook! Yes, it is sad that he is married and that his other family will find out. But then again, he did know that someday things would come to a [head].

So, I say to you, have your baby and love it with all the motherly love that you possess. And the both of you please, for the sake of the child, and the other children involved, be amiable towards each other and any spouses involved.

Answer 4

You are in a tough situation and my heart goes out to you! I think the most important thing is for you to think about what is best for the child. Will you be able to support your baby with just the child support payments? Since the father is married/separated with kids, then the monthly amount he is required to pay may not be enough. You should make a list such as: monthly income, family/moral support, daycare costs, and the amount of time you would be able to dedicate to the baby, etc. The father, most likely, will not be there to help you since he is married/separated. Are you capable (able and available) to be the father, mother and sole provider for the next 18 years? If not, then you should think about open adoption. There are SO many couples that want a child and they could provide the kind of life that your child deserves....an environment filled with love, stability and that is financially sound. Open adoption allows the Mother to pick the couple she feels is best suited for her child and allows the birth Mother to keep in touch the child. If you do not feel that you can provide for your child this would be the best option. I know this is a difficult decision but the love you have for your baby should out weigh your own desires. Best of luck to you. I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 5

I would move on....and not see the father anymore.....and have the baby....this way if you cut it off with him.....you don't look like you are trying to trap him into marrying you or paying you for the baby and so fourth.....yes this baby is going to change your life, but there is nothing better to love.....one thing you will learn from this baby.....is unconditional love! If it is a girl all I ask is that you raise her to be a proper young lady, and to respect herself and her body....Now don't take what I just said as an insult to you.....but if you could see how all these teens were acting now days, you would understand.....they have absolutely no respect for any part of their body, or for others for that matter.....raise you child to know that she is special....tell him or her everyday.....and that no matter what their dreams are.....they can all be fulfilled.

Just keep that baby.....I wish you the best of luck.....and I have a step daughter who is raising twins on her own. so I know you can do it.

Best of luck to you and your baby

Answer 6

I would keep the baby! I am not for abortion...so that would be totally out of the question. If you feel that you can raise this child on your own...and you really want this baby...I see no reason that you shouldn't have it!

If you are against having this baby...than I would look towards adoption!!!!

Congrats on being pregnant...and Good luck with whatever you decide!!

Answer 7

Thou shall not KILL!!! My GF in the late 70's had an abortion.She took a job out of town. I met another girl in the early 80's and with an on again,off again relationship we married in 1987To make a long story short,she misscarried the only child we were able to have. Maybe that was GOD's way of doing whatever he does for whatever reason

Answer 8

I would definitely have it. Children are wonderful! They make life worth living. Religious beliefs aside, some days I think life would be simpler without men. Believe me, I love me some dick, but men can complicate things in a way that can drive you crazy! This way, you will be able to raise your child JUST the way you want without having any input from the dad.

Answer 9

Being male I know this is a difficult question to answer because we don't have that choice/option.
I think that kids are a blessing and that abortion (for the most part) is unnecessary. I'm not giving you a moral lecture but I think if you had unprotective sex then its not fair to a child to lose a chance at life.

Answer 10

If you can give that baby love and have means to take care of it, yes, you should keep the baby,who knows the right guy may come along and help you raise your baby.