I have a general idea about how ill ask her out, but because of my anxiety going out to very busy public places can be very difficult. Can you suggest some low key places that i can go that would still be fun and interesting without being overwhelm by the crowds. As for my anxiety I am ok one on one, but groups usually scare me. Also something besides the movies.
2007-03-11 15:43:36 · 15 answers · asked by dietcoke 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have social anxiety too. it sucks. being a girl, i've always waited for the guy to ask so i can't say that i've ever been in your shoes. but for me, it's all about finding that one moment - the moment that you can do it without thinking about how scared or nervous you are. the moment when it just feels natural. i would say that you shouldn't try to rehearse what you'll say - that seems to make the anxiety worse.
finding something low key besides the movies may be tough. no crouds? maybe go out for coffee at a nice coffee joint, or something simple and quaint. out for lunch maybe - less pressure and anxiety than dinner.
good luck to you , dude. it'll happen
2007-03-11 15:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by missteree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had anxiety/panic disorder for much of my life. I tried coping with it in a variety of ways (diet & exercise, meditation, etc). I had a bad episode after finishing my first year of grad school and decided to take Xanax. I'm not sure how you feel about taking medication (I know I was very reluctant to do so - as are most people with anxiety disorders), but it really did help tremendously. I was on a low dose (1mg a day max) for a few years and had no trouble at all stopping it. It is usually at the higher doses, and when people use it recreationally, that dependence may become a problem. Your OCD is likely a result of the anxiety, and when you start treating the anxiety the OCD you have should go away. However, antidepressants are very effective in treating OCD if it is not simply a symptom of your anxiety/panic disorder. Hope this helps.
2016-03-29 00:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about the park?
The parks a nice place to get to know someone.
I'm sure they'll be people there, but they'll be doing their own thing, you shouldn't worry.
I as well suffer from social anxiety, I know how it is....
I met up with some old friends at school in a large room of people, I got so nervous I could hardly focus. I mad a fool out myself, made things awkward between me & my old friends. Total disaster! After that, I felt like such a loser....When I got home I sent one of my old friends a e-mail, explaining why I acted that way. She completely understood & we just scheduled a better place to meet up with less people,,,which is the park! Things went by SO much more smoothly then they did at school. Just tell her you get nervous with a lot of people, & if you two can possibly meet up some where else, then let her decide, ask her what she thinks would be a good place. She's a girl, us girls understand things like this, don't be afraid to tell her the real you.
2007-03-11 15:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try a dating website. This way you can get to know the girl a little before going on a date. This way you will feel more comfortable with her. If your like me you are only nervous until you get a feel for that person. After that you are able to open up and be yourself right? Also try going somewhere where you will meet someone you already have the same interest as....such as a small concert of your favorite band. Good Luck.
2007-03-11 15:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by Smirx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's so weird because i have (well had the same problem) and i know how overwhelming it was to be in crowded places and feeling all trapped. but my suggestion is that you go to a coffee shop or a walk through the park or something. My personnel favorite is the art museum at night because the place is practically empty!
2007-03-11 15:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your age. If you are younger than just invite her over. If it goes very well than try it again. If you two become close tell her about your anxiety and she will help you along. You may tell her sooner if you feel comfortable. Movies or video games at home is good...........oh yeah, don't beat her bad on the games.
2007-03-11 15:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by Nagitar™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look this is kinda like someone who is mistreated in a relationship...and they say that they cant get over it.......this is what I say......you going to let it control you......or are you going to live....and you control it.
You need to stand up to your anxiety, so that you can live a normal life......some of this comes form being insecure, so you are going to have to talk to yourself in the mirror.....look in your own eyes......and tell yourself positive stuff about yourself, this will help you build you own confidence, as long as you don't stand there and go "oh this is so freaking stupid" you are just talking to yourself.....and it is time to take control over the anxiety, and tell it that it is not going to control you any longer.
NOW GO DO IT!
2007-03-11 15:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What about going for a walk in the park or going to a coffee bar. there are also simple things like going to zoo or museums. hope this works.
2007-03-11 15:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by chazzz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first go to the doctor and get medication, to suppress your social anxiety, then don't start out large, work with yourself and your meds and work your way up to getting both you and her in larger settings each time.
2007-03-11 15:48:07 · answer #9 · answered by ღсяаՀу∙թіхіе∙ժմѕτღ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how about a movie theater? even though it will be crowded, it'll be okay. but if you arent comfortable with this, invite her to your house. If this sounds too weird, how about double date with some of your friends?
2007-03-11 15:47:42 · answer #10 · answered by LEANNE. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋