I'm dating this guy that is married, I know that I love him and he said he wants to be with me. His marriage has been going down hill since they married. He said I will have to wait till we can be officially together. He is getting divorced from his wife soon.
Should I wait or should I move on?
2007-03-11 15:42:38 · 14 answers · asked by Mickie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Despite what previous posters have said, many men (not all) do divorce their wives after having an affair. A large percentage of them also ditch their mistresses in the process, because they want to start over with a clean slate. So that's another reason the odds for you aren't as good as he wants you to think.
Since you asked the question, you obviously aren't ready to let go of the fantasy of a romance with this cheater. But in the meantime, maybe you can respect yourself instead of being a doormat. Tell him to straighten out his life and give you a call when he's really divorced. If he never calls, then you'll have exposed him as a liar. If he does divorce and call you, then you will have a somewhat better chance (though not great) of having an authentic relationship.
2007-03-11 17:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by Houyhnhnm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys who cheat on their wives never leave the wife for the mistress. And what makes you think the guy is telling you the truth about the state of his marriage? And do you have proof that he has a divorce in the works? I'll bet there's a 75 per cent chance that you're being strung along because the guy wants to have his cake and eat it too, and it would be your just desserts.
Even if his marriage IS the pits, the fact remains that he's married, and you have no business being with him in the first place. So to answer your question, you should move on. If he IS having problems in his relationship, cheating isn't going to make it better. Let him leave her, and then get with him. As long as he doesn't have to make a choice, chances are he won't.
2007-03-11 15:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! Never go out with a guy who is unavailable...waste of time and it is wrong. You are better than that! He's probably just telling you that so you will keep sleeping with him! Why be with someone when you have to sneak around because they are already married. Do not go out with a guy unless he is officially divorced. That is just a line that a guy will use to get you to have an affair with him! Move on!
2007-03-11 16:20:04 · answer #3 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about this; Every mans love life would be extremely great if it was with a different women every nite and why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free or why row the boat when your going down stream, why run when you can walk, why push a car up hill for gas when you can coast down hill for the same gas? Got the picture?
2007-03-11 15:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by denfasr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you never said why hes divorcing his wife so it would depend on why but if hes on separation from his wife i wouldnt say thats technically cheating so it wouldnt be once a cheater always a cheater.
what i mean is what happened with him and his wife...was she the problem? or was he the problem? sry i dunno how to explain this exactly.
you might wanna wait but you dont have to depending on the circumstance. my mom's bf has been married to someone else when they were dating but him & his wife is on separation and they are deeply in love. see his wife cheated on him and he had enough so they are separated
if hes on separation id say its definitely ok but for the most part it might be a good idea to wait.
2007-03-11 16:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by Garbo's snowflake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oldest line in the book. Listen, if he does divorce his wife for you, what kind of future do you think you'd have together?
You can lead them to knowledge, but you can't make them think....
2007-03-11 15:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by beenabytch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. If he's willing to cheat on his current wife, once you guys are together, he won't hesitate to cheat on you either. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2007-03-11 15:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by christina 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well like they say once a cheater ALWAYS A CHEATER!!!!! You may think that you can change him but just remember guys think with the wrong head!!!
2007-03-11 15:59:04 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are setting yourself up for major heartache....walk away now before you really get hurt by this married man. They ALL say 'I am leaving her soon' but it never happens....Move on girl....
2007-03-11 15:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by babyblues_752001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The man is married!!
What does that say about your future
with him?
(If he ever leaves his wife!)
2007-03-11 15:49:36 · answer #10 · answered by kris23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋