Would the court accept this as a reason to move into my dad's house?

Question

I want to move to my dad's house becuase the hisgh school I'm attending in the fall is MUCH closer saving me a ridiculous 6 hours on a bus everyday. The busing will also be free and I'll live closer to the school so my friends will be closer.
I'm also unhappy with living with my mom becuase she doesn't get me the school supplies and clothing I need, so I have to buy it when I'm with my dad. My dad and I get along better and can work things out by talking. All my mom does is yell and fight. Nothing gets solved

I'm 14, my parents have split custody of me, my mom doesn't agree but for the most part its so she can still get my brother and I's child support and spend it on herself

I don't dress risque...i dress like tons of other teens...jeans a sweatshirt and t-shirt most of the time. My mom just yells and argues for her own enjoyment, everyone in my family even my stepdad agree. MY dad doesnt feel sorry for me, he understands what its like to live with my mom and my stepdad, brother, and dad agree its an unhealthy living enviornment

another piece of info.

im a good kid: i get great grades, I play sports, I play the flute, take dance classes, and teach religion to younger children
I'm never anywhere i shouldn't be and Ive never drank or smoke or done drugs...so for everyone who thinks im just a teen who doesnt like rules-you can see now thats not the truth

Answer 1

If you are 16 years old, you can make this decision for yourself, without need of courts being involved. But, yes, the reasons you have cited should be enough. Just make sure that you go into the hearing poised and confidant and respectful, and explain why you would do better with a move in concise clear sentences.

Answer 2

Having been going through a custody battle myself I have been forced to learn about these custody issues and deal with this way more then I want, so let me tell you the things I have learned about family law and custody battles.

A lot depends on the feelings of the Judge and the state you in which you live in. Age limits will vary from state to state, but some states will take great consideration in where the child is interested living. The close proximity to school is one that would surprisingly be heavily considered by most judges in the your best interest.
However, the courts are greatly aware of a thing called parent alienation, where one parent convinces or sometimes even brainwashes their child negative and sometimes untrue aspects regarding the other parent. So when a 14 year old talks of a poor environment a judge is more then likely going to think that that language came from an adult parent who is trying to convince a child negative aspects of their counter parent. The courts see this behavior as not in children's best interest and your dad could be penalized for "trash talking" about your mom or his co-parent directly to you.

I know that 14 years old is a very trying time in a young person's life and I am very sorry to hear that you having to choose between your mom and dad. I hope that the judge in your case makes the best decision for you.

I wish you the very best of luck.

Answer 3

A lot of this depends on your age. I was 12 when I decided to move in with my dad. I talked to both parents about it and they agreed so all we had to do was have papers from a lawyer done and never had to go in front of a judge. It depends on what state you live in (as far as the laws are concerned) and what the custody arrangements are of your parents. It is not always an easy task but if what you really want is to move you should be able to do it.

Answer 4

There are a lot of issues behind custodial supervision.
There may be other reasons that the court doesn't
believe your father is a fit parent.

Of course, if your parents both agree, then it could
be very simple. Have you talked to them both about this?

Unfortunately, it is very difficult for you, as a kid, to get
the court's ear. The best you can do is tell your father
that you think he should petition for a change of
custody and give him the reasons YOU think he
should give.

You can ask to speak to the judge - but don't
be surprised if he doesn't want to talk to you
without you having your own representation and
other attorneys present.

If you do get to talk to him or her, be respectful
and think out ahead of time what you want to say.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Those are good reasons, but it will depend on how old you are. Normally, the court will not hear directly from the children until they are about 13 or so, and even then it depends on maturity.

Can you get your parents to agree that you will go and live with your dad? If so, that is best for everyone. No court.

Answer 6

it particularly is tough. the actuality that she does not appreciate you (sneaking out with boys, no longer coming domicile) might make me in user-friendly terms a splash frightened. If shes staying out of difficulty at dads domicile, i might ahve her stay there and doubtless request circulate visitation (relatively than in basic terms the summer season, possibly the different weekend you canpersistent to %. her up, or on college trip trips).... She says that dad have been given rid of the canines for no sturdy reason, yet have you ever spoken to dad approximately it? possibly he DID have a reason. It feels like possibly you and pa dont talk lots (the scuffling with with meds area) so i might say possibly you 2 can attempt to talk. on the subject of the counceling. in case you think of that shes have been given a psychological sickness then you particularly do might desire to stress her to circulate get help. She is in basic terms sixteen (on an analogous time there are in user-friendly terms 2 extra years which you may stress her to get help). I dont understand ordinary techniques on the thank you to stress her, yet while she DOES have a psychological concern then that is not honest that it particularly is inflicting her to be a afflicted teen, entering into difficulty and such. At that factor i might very just about say that its 'no longer her fault' (If a psychological sickness is influencing her).

Answer 7

You are old enough to choose where you wish to live.....a judge will probably let you make that choice. The only thing that would have to be adjusted in child support.....no need in your dad still having to pay if you are living with him.....your mom would have to pay him child support......also know this, it is normal for mothers and daughters to argue. Have you ever though that the reason that you and yoru dad get along so well is because he feels sorry for you, and you are using him to get what you want.....on the other hand, your mother, knows what you are up to a she aint putting up with it.......there are 2 side here, and it is more than just clothing, and school supplies......I am sure that you mother just wnats you to grow up to be a successful, respectable woman. The only way to achieve this, is by you.....respecting yourself and your body.....your body belongs to you......and if you dress risque, then guys, girls and their parents are going to think that you are easy. Let say this one last thing.....the one who loves you.....sets boundaries, these boundaries are set because they love you and want the best for you.....we as adult have to abide by rules everyday......they are called laws.....now say if my parents allowed me not live by those boundaries or respect them as I grew up.....would I have any respect for the laws of our country, would I have any respect.....no, because my parents never made me, I did not have any consequences for not following thie rrules.....what type of citizen do you think I would have turned out to be?
I would probably be in jail, homeless, working and living just above the poverty level.....this is what no boundaries, no rules get you.....no where

Answer 8

This is my point. The courts give mother the right to keep the child with the child support payments. It is very clear that is money is to be spend for expenses of the child. No it doesn't cover all of it but it helps. Now when the mother doesn't spend on the child it what worries me.

Speak out! A child has the right to speak and tell the judge this is what i want to be with and why.

Let see when the money runs out will mother run y'all out.

Answer 9

Dependind on what state you live in you might be old enough to make the decision. Some judges will allow you to make the choice. Ask your dad to file in court and you can tell the judge you want to live with your dad. You can still spend weekends and holidays with your mom.

Answer 10

its worth a try......but..... it sounds as though your mother is a very unhappy, bitter person and she may take great offense at your actions.
make sure you dad really wants you there before you do anything, and have a chat with your guidance counsellor at school. make sure you have transcripts of your grades and can show the judge proof that the benefits of moving are everything you are saying they are, ie: transit time, lack of school supplies. you dont want to come off sounding like a kid that is just tired of mom!
good luck and i hope it all turns out well for you.