My daughter received a gift of $15 cash from a boy in her class who did not make it to her 10th birthday party. What would be a good way to word the thank you note?
we have so far: "Thank you so much for the very generous birthday gift! It was so thoughtful of you.
I will have a lot of fun shopping and using the money to buy something really cool!
I'll see you at school!"
would it be good to add "sorry I missed you at the party.." or "you were missed at the party." or mention him being missed at the party? or better to not mention it at all? any ideas how to word it (as far as him not being at the party).
2007-03-11 15:19:17 · 21 answers · asked by shoshanamom 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
want to add some background info:
we can't say hope to see you at the next one, b/c we are moving out of the state soon.
he is not a good friend, BUT she was in preschool with him for one year, then she went to a diff. school until last year. we know the parents enough to say hello but nothing more. the dad once worked on our computer many years ago (he fixes computers).
the mom said in a note with the gift that they could not find the invite, and she tried to call using my # from the phone book, but it was not the right number..so never go to RSVP. this was the day before the party. she said he could not make it b/c he had hebrew school.
I want to write a nice note b/c I thought it was soooo nice to give the gift even though he did not come.
thanks for the ideas so far-- esp how to word it!
2007-03-11 15:49:12 · update #1
just do an add on to a sentence you already have, such as "..it was so thoughtful to still remember me even though you were unable to attend." then finish with what you already said, you did a great job! :)
2007-03-11 15:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by The French Connection 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The fact that a gift was given despite the guest not coming is even more reason to be gracious.
Indeed you must put something along the lines of:
Dear .....
We missed you at the party last Weekend. I hope you can come around sometime soon. Thank you so much for the gift I am going to buy a.....which I have been saving up for. Hope you can come round soon and play with it. A good idea to say what you/your daughter will be thinking of getting with it (even if you don't).
I wouldn't put the thanks for the gift first - that is a bit like saying thanks for the cash I don't care that you didn't come at least I got some money.
It is very good that you are writing a thank you note at all. Most people don't now a days!
2007-03-11 15:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not being at the party seems to be more on your mind than the boy's. It is possible that the boy sent the gift to show, not only his wishes for a happy birthday, but also to show that he is sorry he could not attend the party.
In any case, it was very thoughtful of the lad to send a gift even though he missed the party, and he should be thanked for the gift and a kind thank you will be enough. But it wouldn't hurt to mention missing him at the party.
2007-03-11 15:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by sonyack 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Birthday Gift Thank You Note
2016-10-15 05:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not mention that he missed the party. He and his parents are already aware of that. Plus, there may have been good reasons why he couldn't be there physically and those reasons may be personal. You will be implying that his absense was not only noticed, but disapproved of. Let sleeping dogs lie and stick with the simple thank you that you have already written. Kudos for making your daughter send out thank you notes by the way. Few parents do that and it's a good habit. But forget the part about the boy's absense.
2007-03-11 16:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by teacupn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write gave gift bday party
2016-02-01 04:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by Agretha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I'm so sorry you couldn't make it to the party. Thank you so much for the very generous birthday gift! It was so thoughtful of you. I will have a lot of fun shopping and using the money to buy something really cool! I'll see you at school.
Hope you can come to the next one!"
2007-03-11 15:27:53 · answer #7 · answered by Dimples 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, include a note that he was missed. Either what you already suggested or, "Sorry you couldn't make it. I was looking forward to seeing you."
If you know why he wasn't there, like a death in the family, an illness, something serious like that, it would be appropriate to mention concern or sympathy to that affect.
2007-03-11 15:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 10 years old, you are sort of a hostage to your family-----He might have wanted to go to the party, but his parents might have objected, so it might be better not to mention it at all. He sounds like a good friend, to take the trouble to "gift" at all. I hope you can include him in something in the future.
But the thank-you note will mean a lot to him.
2007-03-11 15:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I missed you at the party would be appropriate.
I also would include in the thank-you note what she bought with the $15. Most people like to know!
2007-03-11 15:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by Laura H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could put it as "I just wanted to say thank you for the birthday gift you sent for ( you daughters name). I am sorry you were unable to attend the birthday party, but I want to thank you very much for the gift. It was very thoughtful of you."
2007-03-11 18:43:52 · answer #11 · answered by tammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋