I have a relative with whom I'd like to remain in touch about family matters, but she also includes me on a list - and sends me messages about other matters: politics, religion, ethics. I'd rather not receive these, and I'd like to find a civilized way of letting her know. All advice will be received gratefully - thanks!
2007-03-11 15:18:38 · 12 answers · asked by Kauma 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Just let her know, it's not impolite to be honest about your personal preferences. "I like chatting with you but I'm really too busy for all this kind of stuff" or something should do, no need to be extremely apologetic or lengthy.
2007-03-12 02:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One time I had 38 fwds from one person. Although I wanted to hear from this person on a personal level I sure didn't appreciate all the emails...so I replied to all 38 or them. Funny thing, it didn't stop. So I made a rule, (through Outlook) that said any email from this person, with FWD in the message, to put in my delete box. That way I was able to still receive her "real" email. Another approach I used was a simple note that said "Hi Sue, I really appreciate that you think of me so often, but I have to ask that you not send me fwds because I recently received a virus. (it wasn't from you). So, if you could do me a favor, and not send any fwds that would be great" <---that worked too.
2007-03-12 23:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by pronoun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this from a lady at my church. Love her, HATE the junk she sends. Haven't been able to get her to totally stop, even with several emails requesting that she not forward anything, but I would like like to correspond about family and friends. It helped a little.
I hope someone has an idea.
Right now I have my "friend" on the spam list and only open personal messages, the rest I report as spam, which is what that stuff is.
2007-03-11 22:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth, all you really have to do is to tell them that you wouldn't like to hear about those things. Try to make it as formal as possible. There really isn't any way of making it sound polite other than to ask not to send them. There really isn't a problem since you could just as well ignore them and throw the e-mails away. Another option, which is more difficult is to make a seperate inbox section that would recieve just those e-mails. That way you can filter out what you need from what you don't want.
2007-03-11 22:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by dtsxavid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a relative, you don't want it to sound liek a busienss letter with lots of impersonal words because it makes it sound like you're rejecting their job offer. This is family, so just be pleasant and honest.
Reply to email:
"Hey, thanks for forwarding this over to me... it was very interesting! But, I've got to be honest, I've been receiving a lot of forwards lately, and it's making it hard to sift through these to find the more important personal emails.
I'm really glad that you're keeping in touch with me, but I'm asking all of my contacts to remove me from their forwarding list, and I must ask you the same. Feel free to write to me anytime, but I'd just rather not receive anymore forwards in my email- hope you understand. Take care, and hope to hear from you soon!"
2007-03-11 22:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by Firstd1mension 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can wirte her a personal email. Tell her while you love family updates and whatnot, you would prefer if she not send you the spam mail (or forwards, however you want to put it). She should be respectful of that choice and take you off.
Most people send it on though becuase they think it may be of importance to you, or to share laughs. If that isnt your thing then you should just let her know.
:0)
2007-03-11 23:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either call her or email her that you have been getting viruses on your computer lately and your tech advisor (make up a coworker, friend, etc.) said it is a result of the spam you have been getting from a variety of people, including her. As a result, you welcome the correspondance from her but you would like to be taken off her group email address list as the computer crash fees are adding up. Worked for me!!
2007-03-11 22:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by Baby boy arrived March 7th! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" While I appreciate you bringing me awareness's to other information...I have other interests that I choose to focus on. With all that you message to me of these other sites...it gums up the focus I choose to put to other areas. Thank you for sending them to me though and it's nice to know that you are aware and I have you as a source for information I might ask for in the future. So would you please delete my name and not add my name to any other sites in the future. Thanks Aunt * * * * * ".
Put that in your own words and see how it flys with her.
If that doesn't work...maybe point out that while you appreciate her interests that you'd hope that you and she have different focuses in your life right now. . . then just to on from there.
You have to teach people how to treat you...and...a person is only to treat you the way you let them treat you. I had to learn to respectfully yet firmly back people off of me at times also.
Good luck.
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2007-03-11 22:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aloha from Down Unda!
"Due to vast quantities & limited resources, as well as precious time constraints, please refrain from forwarding other items & limit emails to this address for essential personal family matters.
Love always..."
Best wishes -
K-den, M1/NSWMoke aka mikewonaus@yahoo.com aka
Dorfus :O)) Chucklenose aka MikeOne496@msn.com
2007-03-12 18:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use filter on the mail options. Anything with "Fwd" or "FWD" filter them to thrash box.
2007-03-12 02:53:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋