My son turned 4 in Jan. He has a very mild case of autism and is currently doing really well. He will use the potty at school but not at home. How do I get him to go at home? He has an older brother 6 and follows him into the bathroom occasionally but doesn't do anything. How do I get him to go at home? I have a one year old, and one due in July......please help!
2007-03-11 15:16:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I have two children with mild autism in my preschool class this year. One is 4 and the other is 5. Both parents are struggling with the boys regressing when at home. At school they are both verbal and fully potty trained. They are much more independent. And it isn't a full parenting problem either because one is a twin and the twin sister isnt strugging with this at all.
Now I tell the boys what I expect of them at home. They have a grid they take home. So with potty training I say, "John I want you to go to the bathroom in the potty - no accidents." And so at home if he goes in the potty his mom marks a box. She even marks a box if he goes and sits for her when she tells him to on the potty and tries. She also marks a sad face when he had an accident or refused to be obedient.
Each morning I make a huge todo over the good marks. He gets to cover the grid iwth a smiley face sticker. I really act disappointed when I come to a sad face. I make sure he realizes that now he doesnt' get to get a sticker for that box.
It is working. Knowing that mom and teacher communicate and are on the same page is really helping.
Good Luck. SD
2007-03-11 18:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by SD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I worked with an autistic child who was not potty trained at night. After that experience, I tell parents, get rid of the pull-ups at home. It sounds like he has the skill, but no insentive. Wet underwear are a great incentive. Buy some training pants and see how he reacts to the wetness when he goes. What we did as as a therapist, was have the child sit on the toilet and give him and unlimited supply of liquid. When he went we celebrated regardless if it went in the toilet. After a while he got the hang of it and would go. Eventually we added underwear, but he would hold it until his mom would put the pull-up on. If he can make the connection between the wet underwear and going on the toilet he will start going at home. You could try a treat for going, but see if hi-5's and verbal rewards work first. I would put him on the toilet about every hour and make sure he has had plenty of liquids. Make a big deal when he goes even if it ends of everywhere. If he wets, do not make a big deal, just have him sit for a few minutes. You may endure a mess for a little while, but in the long run it will be well worth it. I would use pull-ups for bedtime and going out in public, but try training pants at home and daycare. YOu may want to talk to his daycare teacher as to how she prompts him and exactly what she says and does so you can mimik that at home. The consistency will also make a big difference for him. Remember, the initial hard work and inconvenience will pay off in the long run. And you are going to want this skill mastered before baby comes along.
2007-03-11 15:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by ma2snoopy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when my mom was potty training my siblings and i (this is going back 20 something years....my sister is 28, my brother is 25 (26 in a few months) and i am 24), my mom told us if we did 1 or 2 we'd get a piece of candy or a cookie (an m&m or an animal cookie). this is the same way that my sister and brother in law potty trained my nephew....although we - my sister, my brother in law, my parents, my brother and i - would alternate between candy/cookies with yogurt raisins or 2 cubes of cheese.....something healthy so it wouldn't be junk food all the time.
i'd try encouraging your son a bit when you guys are at home...staying up for a few more minutes playing with some of his games/toys or maybe an extra bedtime story.
hope i helped
2007-03-11 15:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by Laura 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter had a hard time as well so I used a sticker chart I taped to the bathroom wall. Everytime she used the potty she got a sticker and when it was full she got a surprise. This worked fast!
2007-03-11 18:19:59 · answer #4 · answered by wendy l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the technique of alternative babies may be what is going to help her maximum. Thats particularly unhappy, i'm sorry for you. in any case i began education my son at 2 he did no longer like it, by technique of the time he grew to become into 3 i grew to become into waiting to pull my hair out because of the fact i assumed i grew to become right into a bad mom because of the fact he does not go potty, then over the subsequent month after his 0.33 birthday lots of the babies in his daycare used the potty, now he receives embarrassed while he has an twist of destiny. i individually think of he found out from the different babies better than something.
2016-09-30 13:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by lieser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask him every 15 minutes if he needs to go, and take him to the potty every 30 minutes or less if he had something to drink. It's gets tiring, so have your 6 year old and hubby help too. The more you nag him, he'll get it. Good luck!
2007-03-11 15:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what do they do differently at school?
try to establish a routine of potty time to see if it helps
2007-03-11 15:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by Greeneyed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋