Over the summer I had my birthday party and all my friends attended, even a girl whom I went to Junior High with. When I talked to her online a few days before the party I realized just how much I liked her.
I decided that the day after the party I would ask her out, but my friend apparently asked her out at the party and they did something the next day. I felt like I had no control over the situation that was presented and also felt betrayed. I didn't even get an opportunity to say anything before I realized the case.
I still have feelings for her and it's difficult to move on because of our long friendship before that point. Now I'm wondering, seven months later, what should I do (if anything)?
I don't mean to sound like I'm whining about it, but I really think we belong together.
2007-03-11 15:15:55 · 10 answers · asked by kjbouche 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Alright look over this time I have told her I liked her and all three of us know this now. I don't think that my friend really likes her though, it's tough to explain without sounding like an ***.
2007-03-11 15:29:47 · update #1
look dude first you should ask your friend how much he loves her. if he says not that much then tell him i have strong feelings towards her and i think you should break up for me. if he says he loves her then wait a while for them to break up and then ask her out because your friends friendship is still important. Also if they dont break up then there love was meant to be and your attraction just gets in the way.
2007-03-11 15:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are whining about it... . I don't understand why you wrote that you felt like you had no control over the situation... don't you know.. you never really have control over any situation. This is a wrong perception, you can not control any one else's behavior, so how could you have not had your friend ask her out before you..... This is not your friends fault, so don't try to blame him for your waiting to long. You felt betrayed? How strange, who betrayed you... I think you betrayed yourself, and rather than take responsibility for it, accept it, and move on with your life.. you rather suffer...for how long now..seven months! Wow, that's a long time to be suffering over a girl... its not like there are no more girls. What should you do... get over it my friend, move on. And don't ever waist your time feeling sorry for yourself. Remember, you win some, you loose some, but the race is long and it is only with yourself....
2007-03-11 15:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by Che K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then make the try, girls think a lot and I mean a lot, we have in the back of our heads the first kiss and everyone in between, I still think about my boyfriend from when I was 10, and he's married or soemthing now, I have no idea but I still think about him and would love to just hear from him some time.
2007-03-11 15:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by Cjara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can, stay friends with her. If the two of you belong together, it will work out that way. If not, at least you still have her as a friend. Unless you said something to both of them about your feelings, this girl and your friend who asked her out had no idea of your feelings, so you shouldn't feel betrayed by either one of them. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you.
2007-03-11 15:21:22 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie73 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should talk to her and tell her how you feel, no matter how gushy that may sound. If she turns you down, then at least you know that you tried and you'll be able to move on.
2007-03-11 15:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by Eragon S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why can't you ask her out now?
nobody betrayed you because they didn't know you liked her.
only you knew.
why not just ask her out?
if she is still dating the other guy of course you cannot.
just wait until they break up then ask her out.
2007-03-11 15:19:47 · answer #6 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then tell her how you feel. I think that if you are really meant to be together then somehow, someday you will be.
2007-03-11 15:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by somedaywillcome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude I've totally been there. I'm a stubborn son of a *****, and I pursued her and got her... but unfortunately I've lost her again. if you believe you belong with her, ******* go after her man
2007-03-11 15:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by smoke 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to her try to figure out how she feels about you
2007-03-11 15:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by kimgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her
2007-03-11 15:18:48 · answer #10 · answered by Demon Dogg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋