Im 18 and he is 24 we live together and i stay at home cooking and cleaning and he works 4 days a week in another state. well im about 1 month pregnant and I dont know how to tell him. Im afraid hes gunna freak and dump me what do I do?
2007-03-11 15:01:40 · 31 answers · asked by Michelle R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he freaks a bit and needs to take walk to burn off some steam, this is normal. Even my husband did this and we were married. Then once he got over the initial shock, he was fine. However, if you give him some time and talk about it and he doesn't seem to share your love and future goals, maybe it's for the best that you aren't together. Will he make a good father for your baby? You could even try some kind of couples therapy.
You should tell him about his baby though. This is morally and legally the right thing to do. He has a right to a child as much as you do. However, if you don't love him or he "dumps you", this isn't a relationship you want to be in. You will have been given a wonderful gift though that you will always treasure. Congratulations!!!
2007-03-11 15:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by CandyLandCondoResident 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him, and the sooner the better. I assume you've taken a pregnancy test, I suggest you buy another one.
Tell him you missed your peroid, so you took a pregnancy test and it came out positive.
False positives are rare, but they do happen, so after you've told him take another pregnancy test. (If hes having trouble accepting that you're pregnant a positive test will really drive the truth home).
Decice what you personally want to do first. But don't discuss what you're going to do together right away. Just let it sink in that this is real. You've known for at least a little longer then he has, so give him time to process. Within a week (I'd suggest no more then 3 days after) of initially telling him then have the 'what now' conversation.
Alot of people won't tell anyone else (family/friends), until three months into the pregnancy. I would suggest you follow this rule of thumb and keep it between the two of you until you are sure what you want to do. When you have a plan, then turn to the others around you and ask for support.
Good luck hun.
2007-03-11 15:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by Ashes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about you two sitting down and having a nice heart to heart and tell him the truth and the two of you make some decisions about your future and what you are going to do. You made a decision to have unprotected sex and now the consequences are here so deal with them and be honest. Honesty is always the best regardless of what happens. If he freaks, as you suspect, then you need to get out now while the getting is good. You nor your baby need all of this drama. It is just not good. You now have to take care of yourself and that baby regardless of what that man does. Hopefully he will act like a man and do the right thing. I do wish you well and hope that it all works out for all three of you. God Bless!!!
2007-03-11 15:10:22 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy Roo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first, you need to be honest and upfront with him about this. Unfortunatly we all make a choice each time we have sex. We accept that theres a chance (however tiny) that we might get pregnant. If he truly loves you, he'll stay. But he needs to know, and now. Hiding it will cause more problems. If he isnt willing to stay than you shouldnt be dating and living with him. This is a true test of your relationship, and can be a gift or a burden. Good luck and I realy hope the best for you.
2007-03-11 15:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by sasukechaos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and don't get over emotional if you can. Tell him to stay calm and to talk about it with you before he lets his mind flip flop. And than tell him your about a month pregnant. If he's living with you i doubt he'll freak out and dump you. Hopefully you've been living together for a while. Just try to ease him into it as best you can. And be understanding if he gets upset. It'll work out. :) good luck.
2007-03-11 15:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're pregnant with his child and he dumps you do you really want to be involved with someone like that......let alone raise a child with him.
If you're absolutely sure you're pregnant tell him that whatever birth control method you guys are using didn't work and a baby is on the way.
At your age and at this time in your life it's going to be a big change and a big responsibility.... but you didn't do this by yourself, he's just as responsible.
2007-03-11 15:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him how would he feel to start a family. Then say would you be able to devote time to a family. But just a mental note tell him soon or he will not claim the child,and he will make up an excuse to leave you. even if ya'll don't work out be strong for the child you are going to have
2007-03-11 15:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely cryz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it particularly is going to be ok no concerns, i understand you'll be able to desire to be freaking out, My boyfriend grew to become into with me when I took the attempt I informed him i assumed i may be and that i grew to become into scared what he grew to become into going to assert to think of nicely 7 years down the line have been nevertheless jointly and each thing is super. i might permit him understand you'll be able to desire to talk to him tell him you took a attempt and it got here back effective see the place is stands on it the type you the two sense. Its so significant to have help while your pregnant. i think of each and every thing would be in basic terms wonderful for you in user-friendly terms permit him understand then attempt to get to a doctor quickly to get dealt with. additionally being so youthful numerous youthful adult males get scared a competent theory may be take him to the appt with you so if he has any questions he can ask to plus i'm specific he might particularly decide to hearken to the little heartbeat :) Congrats!
2016-09-30 13:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by lieser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just sit down and tell him what you told us. It is crazy to me that women are scared to tell there partner that they are pregnant but have no problem doing the act. I think that anyone who is mature enough to have sex should be mature enough to deal with the possible outcomes as an adult If your worried what your boyfriend is going to say or do then maybe he isnt the right person to be in a relationship with, if he isnt mature enough to deal with the consequenses of having sex, then he shouldnt do it.
2007-03-11 15:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you just tell him that you need to talk and you sit down together and you just let him know that you did not plan this and that you want to stay together. He might be happy or he might want his space. It happened to me and we split up and just stayed friends for 1 year, then we got back together and live together again. Good Luck
2007-03-11 15:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by sweethonesty1699 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋